What a brave thing you have done.
Cg’s are very manipulative, so you need to be prepared.
You also need to take a breath. I would imagine your head is in a whirlwind at the moment, don’t panic too much, I know you are overwhelmed, but you are going to be ok.
I am sure that your cg does know that his gambling is a problem, but the addiction will not let him stop and is on full defence. This could be the wake up call he needs.
Hes going to try everything to try to get back into your good graces.
The anger, well, that’s not surprising. Youre not giving in and he doesn’t like it. You are standing up to him and he doesn’t like it. He cant gamble and he doesn’t like it!!!!!
I gambled for 15 years. We lost our home (had to sell it) and I kept gambling. When I stopped it wasn’t because I was kicked out, or my husband had left me. It was simply because I could no longer look at myself in the mirror. I could not stop feeling violently ill. I wanted and needed to stop because I believed if I didn’t I was going to die. I was dying, the person I had been was gone, replaced by this sick, lying, sneaky person who I could no longer stand.
That’s when I stopped.
Maybe if my husband had left me I may have stopped earlier, who knows? What I do know is that this addiction can be managed, I stopped gambling, and your partner can too. Unfortunately, he wont until he is ready.
You need to look after yourself and your little boy.
Don’t lose yourself in all of this.
You WILL be ok.
Time can work wonders.
Take care Frankie.
Love K xx
