I found a lot of the above helpful,(or should it be not helpful?) I -Did-it, when I actually wanted to gamble!
Don’t take me up the wrong way please.
I’m not nagging, judging,criticizing, being blunt, comparing situations, challenging, quoting you back out of context etc.
I’m just saying that when I wanted to gamble I needed to eliminate all the people from my life who would hinder my action.
Almost every situation you describe would have applied.
I find reading F and F helpful because it highlights many of the things I chose to overlook or deny i.e. the effect my gambling had on others. Very few CGs confine our spending to “our own” money. Most CGs I have met have spent other peoples’ money. Money we had to beg borrow or steal. Realizing our faults and failings certainly makes a CG want to “escape”.
The things we don’t want to hear are often the very things we need to hear.
Why would a person waste time on a recovery site trying to put another member down?
I just don’t get that and I don’t find it helpful that you would suggest it.
It could put people off trying to offer support.