Hello k,
I’m glad you’ve posted on here and hope you can gain some support from it. Much of what you’ve wrote rings bells with me. It’s so familiar, the lies, money, family and the change in personality in particular.
I’ve been with my partner for 5 years and I’d say for pretty much of that time he’s gambled although I didnt know for the first couple of years. It’s such a strain on your relationship and life!
I would try to talk to him and tell him what you said about loving him and wanting to support him but he has to want to get support for this too and suggest ways you could do this together. It won’t be easy but it’s important to be quite firm and tough on what you expect I think.
Unfortunately it seems there is no easy answer to all this but with the right support and tools in place your partner can get there.
Hope it goes well, and let us know how you get on.
There’s some great people on this site who are very informative and supportive. Hope it helps.
