Hello Jack
The expression “honesty is the best policy” is a hard policy to uphold but in my opinion, it was honesty that made me move from abstinence to recovery…
Jack you havent mention if you have attempted recovery before or if your wife is aware of your problem, and this makes a huge difference to any advice given however irrespective, no one can say how she will react or what you should do!
Working on an assumption Youve made promises to your wife before about stopping and these promises haven’t been fulfilled. why not stop talking about what you’re going to do. and do things that are realistic and that will make a tangible difference
No one can say what her reaction is going to be however if you have put barriers and therapy in place, she may just see this as courageous. for example, some of the following would show commitment which can only help your chances and will if commited make a better future
Self-Exclusion (Online, Bookies & Casino’s)
Gamstop
Group Therapy through GA
Face to Face Counselling
Group Therapy through Smart Recovery
Being willing to hand over financial control
Moving to a bank that doesn’t allow Gambling such as Monzo
Jack, one question… if you don’t tell her: can you hide this from her or will the lies you tell catch you out? and then will it be the lies or the gambling that becomes the deciding factor?