H Lily
I was on this site for 2 years before I read anything in ‘My Journal’. I was in Gam-Anon for over a year before I would venture with the others into a joint meeting with GA. I was always afraid of what I might hear. I took a course in addiction counselling before I felt ready to understand whatever was said (and why) on both sides of the coin.
It is always hard to put over that reading the words of a loved one in another forum could be damaging to one’s recovery but F&F and CG will not seek and find recovery in the same way. I think it is what the expression ‘eavesdroppers never hear good about themselves’ is all about. I will be forever glad that I didn’t know what my CG said about me when he went on the GMA programme and his addiction was not under control – I would probably have launched a full scale justification of ‘me’ wrecking what turned out to be 2 long term, happy, healthy, recoverees.
I am delighted that you are going to carry on giving and getting support and I think you are right to keep to the F&F forum where ‘you’ are understood.
V
