Good to hear that you will have company over Easter Lizbeth. Make sure it is on your terms this time. My “prodigal” son (and a few other family members/friends) played the game of “I have other arrangements made” and eventually would come to me when other plans fell through. I would always lay our the red carpet, kill the fatted calf and go out of my way to entertain them. More often than not, I was the one who would be walked on not the red carpet!!!
All I’m saying, Liz is don’t allow anyone to use you. Forgive and forget is a lovely idea, but remember that applies to your daughter as well as to you.
Maybe your visitors could bring some goodies or share the cost of the weekend. It would be a good idea to set boundaries to ensure they don’t get the impression that you are allowing things glide. Afterall, there has been a shift in your relationship so keeping things cool might be in order.
(My friend told me she had her daughter and her husband come to stay for a few days recently. She cooked, baked etc etc. They arrived hungover from an all night party, pushed the food around on the plate and said they weren’t hungry and went to bed for the evening!!!!) spent the next two days lolling around in nightwear, too tired to converse with her and left her feeling very used and rejected! I’m giving this as an example of why we mammies should lay down a few ground rules for our adult “kids!!!!!)
Prepare well in advance Lizbeth. Don’t allow yourself to be sucked in!
