Hi Paul,
Just a very brief comment.
If your wife is a Compulsive Gambler, as I am and is in charge of your finances, you have every reason to be scared to check the bank statements.
My suggestion would be to tell your wife you would like to see those statements and don’t let her fob you off.
Every gambler needs an enabler.
My husband was my main enabler.
Could you confide in a family member and arrange a mini non confrontational intervention?
No smoke without fire.
