Sorry I wasn’t able to make it to the meeting today, I had a work obligation I couldn’t reschedule.
That said, I decided last night to take the outline of the CG/Non-CG cycle that I’ve read on here and put my own words and my own cycle into that narrative, so that I can see just what the cycle is for ME. And then work on the ways I can stop replaying that over and over again. I think that’s a good first step for me to work on me.
I do take care of myself with my own hobbies and the like, so I haven’t lost myself in that sense. I learned from my relationship to make sure to take care of myself.
So for now, i’m not going to work on trying to solve her issue, I can’t anyway. She has to be the one to be willing, do the work, work harder at it than I am, and she has to come up with the solutions and then carry those out. Me, my part is to work on what I do stay in the non-cg cycle and to get out of it.
I thank you all again for your kind words and your support/advice. I’m going to begin putting some of these things into practice.
By the way what’s gobsmacking??? I’m from across the big pond you see and have no idea what that word means!
OAJ