Dear (((trinitysky)))! I too was struck with your comment of becoming an empty shell after the breakup of a previous relationship. That would suggest to me that you lose who you are in long-term relationships. I recognize that because I’ve done the same. In our quest to be loved and accepted, we slowly stop being the person we were that attracted our partner in the first place. It starts being all about the one we’re with. It would appear that he is distancing himself from you, leaving you alone on Christmas Day, not taking you to the wedding, and no discussion of what you’ll be doing on New Year’s Eve. Take back your power and make your own New Year’s Eve plans, and start doing the things you used to enjoy. Just a cautionary word about moving in with the co-worker. If things go bad, then it could make the workplace an uncomfortable situation for the both of you. You really are doing exceptionally well by not gambling in such a stressful situation. As hard as this may be to believe, better days will come in time. Your prince seems more of a toad as he is not making this breakup easy on you, by giving you conflicting information. He tells you he loves you but doesn’t act lovingly. If you want the truth, look at his actions, not his words. (((Hugs))) Carole
