Dear Jds
You are carrying far too much weight on your shoulders but I can hear that telling your mother is causing you extra distress so maybe it isn’t the right time for you to spill the beans – however, I hope you will take on board all that Twilight has said about her relationship with her mother and maybe share your problem with your mother in the not too distant future..
If you continue as you are at the moment you will not get help from either parent, one is oblivious to your problem and the other doesn’t want to hear as he is only concerned with himself. It is really tough but in my opinion, it is best that you don’t expect, or hope for, any support from your father – put him on a back-burner and accept that you have to cope with your life without his support.
The CAB understand the debt that the gambling addict can foist upon an unsuspecting family member, perhaps you could approach them for advice. I did what Vera has suggested you do and told my CG’s creditors that it was him and not me that was the debtor – I was amazed at the amount of compassion I received because they are very aware of the addiction. Naturally their main concern is to get their money back but they will possibly give you extra time or even lessen the debt, it is certainly worth talking to them. I am not sure they can chase your father if you signed the loan agreements but if I were you I would not leave a stone unturned.
Keep posting J – you will get through this.
Velvet
