Dear BJ
As you so rightly said ‘every situation is entirely different’ and outcomes will always vary.
You made your decision having gained knowledge and for that I commend you, I am sure it wasn’t easy.
Unfortunately the addiction often brings undesirable and dangerous people into lives that were peaceful and naive and sometimes cutting and running is the right thing to do.
Having now put yourself first, give yourself time to enjoy just being ‘you’. I suspect from your posts that you are a wiser person for this experience and I believe in using all experiences, bad and good, to improve our lives.
We can only hope that your ex-fiancé will come to his senses sooner rather than later but he is not your responsibility and while he is still making poor choices he will probably drift on until his addiction hurts him enough.
So look forward and don’t keep wondering ‘what if’ or ‘if only’ these words only hold you back. There is no need to feel guilt or shame – you did your best but he wasn’t ready to listen.
I wish you well Blue Jaffa; that is a brilliant username
Velvet
