(((Carole))) I am glad that you are giving Danny and yourself another chance. You should be proud of yourself that you tried something and for some reason it did not go the way you had planned it, but as Liz says everything happens for a reason and we don’t always know what. I know that I have to work at forgiving my husband for the way he has treated me at times, and also for not being their to support me the way I wanted. It is not always easy, but I am progressing in it, and putting boundaries in place have helped me so much. I know that I always felt guilty when I would stand up for what I wanted. I am slowly realizing that I am my own person and if I don’t want to do something I don’t have too. It is interesting how someone can make us feel guilty because we are not conforming to what they want. I believe as we get more “mature” we learn so much more. I wish I had read the book about better boundaries years ago. Life is all about taking it one day at a time, and I am realizing that more and more. I am feeling overwhelmed right now as we are really busy at work with a big fundraiser that is happening at the end of April. My daughter is moving back in next weekend. We are working on the basement. Need I say more. I have to separate everything though and say I will deal with it step by step. I am not super woman any more and I just don’t have the stamina that I used to have. I am excited as our grandkids and of course our son and wife are coming to visit us in August. I am excited to have my kids all together for a change. Usually we go visit them twice a year. It is also motivation to get the basement done, although once our daughter moves back she will be helping with the basement. She will have her own space in the basement. It will all come together, but it is stressful, and I don’t like my home being in such an upheaval. I understand the barrier with cash by having Danny looking at the joint accounts, as that is a strong barrier for me with my husband. Carole, all we can do is take it one day at a time!!!
