Thanks a lot Lily for your very thoughtful and kind response.
I do need to back away. Not sure how far back, but this forum is a great resource to help me understand what im getting myself into.
Ok I just spent two days with Nguyen. Here are some thoughts, if a bit controversial. I’ll share them anyway.
I told Nguyen that I’d read stories online shared by loved ones of gamblers. The common thread of the CG putting gambling as their First Love. The fact that CG only care about themselves. They hurt all people around them, but don’t care. They only focus on themselves. I said Nguyen I see this behavior in you. I saw it during our travels, and I see it now. I think she agreed, it’s a good point.
Nguyen already banned herself from all casinos n her area. They took her picture as part of a program to let people opt out.
At her nail salon they gamble small money all the time, Among themselves at break.
She disagrees that CG are always broke. In her community of Vietnamese, there are raging CG who own homes, and successful companies. I wonder if there is a cultural angle on this. Perhaps those of European ancestry, like myself, are particularly inclined to overstep all sensible reason when it comes to gambling, yet Asians lose control too but are better able to keep it in check.