Thanks for the pep talk Lily! Hope you had a nice weekend/mother’s day?
THE CARD: so after not remembering to take the card away from CG, then texting CG to remind him that he hadnt given his card to me, we had to play the “imaginary lost bank card” game. Except I didn’t play. He tried to claim that he had left the bank card at my house and that I was responsible for him not having the card as I didnt have it. I stated clearly and patiently that it wasnt true that he left it at mine. I sat and read my book whilst he pretended to look for it in my drawers “where he had left it” and again just gave the reasons why he wouldnt be able to find it at my house. The main one being that he was carrying out of my house the day before…
And I left it there. No enabling. No helping. No engaging in the charade.
Strangely, on the drive back, out of the blue without any prompt, CG decided to confess he had lied to me. About debt he had racked up on one of his bank cards, which is meant to be impossible to do, and the trouble he was having paying it off and that every payday he would put £50 on a horse to pay it off and every payday he would lose and be down £50, and all of those £50s could have been used to pay the bank back so now that he is what he is doing. Every week £100 to the bank. But then he was talking about blowing through his wages and that he was annoyed giving so much to the bank but he was spending the same easily in one night at the pub drinking/gambling. And that the problem isnt him losing money to the bank, its losing money down the pub.
Gambling makes him miserable 99 times out of 100.
These are words i NEVER thought I would hear from CG’s mouth any time soon. And I was so unprepared for it.
The cynical side of me wonders if that’s just what he thinks I want to hear? Is it manipulation, did he know he had no win with the bank card? But on the other side, it is a place that I never thought I would get to with him? Has something filtered through?
Anyway, its less than a week until my holiday and that’s alllllll i can think about now! Everything else will take care of itself…
logic x