Hi Romana
You have done so well writing your posts and I am glad that Dark Energy has taken time to reply to you.
The addiction to gamble is not about money; your partner gambles because he wants to ‘gamble’ – it is not to buy shoes or to make you happy – these are not his priorities however much he says otherwise. He needs money to gamble and his addiction tells him that gambling will get him that money – it is a vicious cycle.
I had to learn this tough lesson, Romana. I believed the gambler in my life felt sad for me and was sorry for what he was putting me through. When he did eventually turn his life around, he told me that he had only ever felt sad for himself.
You are obviously a very kind person, wanting to see the best in your partner but in my opinion, that is unwise. Until he can trust himself and you can see the difference, it is best that you do not trust his words. Only actions make a difference, Romana. Your boyfriend has been letting you do the worrying – he must take responsibility if he is to change.
I am not sure whether your final paragraphs mean that you have truly walked away so I will await your reply before I write anymore. I do know your partner can change his life and live a wonderful gamble-free or I wouldn’t be here but he has to take action.
Look after yourself Romana. It would be great if you could pop into a Friends and Family group so that we can ‘talk’ in real time, it is private and safe.
Velvet