Hi Velvet,
Thank you for your reply last week, Since my last visit We have tried talking to my brother in a calm manner to try and help but he either lies or just walks off, we are not getting anywhere, there have been more lies.
With regards to the board situation, this has been mentioned again to my brother, he agrees but nothing happens and doesn’t give my parents any money. My mum feels likes she’s banging her head against a brick wall, and I think bothy parents feel uncomfortable approaching the subject again incase he becomes verbally aggressive. My mums not sleeping properly and its causing her anxiety. Unfortunately my brothers not even recognises this.
My mum feels ashamed and won’t talk to anyone about it, this is why I want to find out as much information and get any help I can to help my family sort this problem.
I have no other siblings which can help me, and my mum dont want me mention any of this to family or friends as she feels ashamed and embarrassed.
We have hidden all money and cash cards and all our Money from our sales is at my house as we cannot trust him.
It was my mums birthday and she got some money and she immediately gave to me to look after at my house as she cant trust my brother.
Since my last visit, my brother failed to pay his phone bill, which is on my account. His bill was £137.00 he get paid every Friday, the phone company tried to take the money by direct debit from his account but he didn’t have the funds in.
I advised my brother to pay it asap on the Monday, on Tuesday I asked him if he had paid it and he said he had. Wednesday evening I got a text to inform me my calls have been restricted, I knew my brother had not paid the bill. I rang him and he stated he had paid it, he then rang the phone company and paid it but blamed them as he stated he paid beforehand which isn’t true as I previously spoke to the company and they advised no attempt had been made of my brother paying his bill.
Yesterday I was informed he paid his bill via the company card, the boss is aware and is absolutely livid.
I feel his lies and actions are getting worse.
From here can I ask what the best way forward is? how do I approach my brother? what step do I take next?
Looking forward to your reply
Kelly