Hi Pan
To divorce or not to divorce is a massive question.
I hope you will keep posting as you weigh up your options and I hope it will help you to know that someone, who understands, is listening.
I hear you when you say that your husband has betrayed everything but as I said before, your husband can change but it is down to him – nobody can make him.
If we were sitting side-by-side Pan or in a quiet F&F group, I would ask you if you still loved him. It is another big question and one you may not want to answer online but I think it is important to ask yourself the question because divorce is so final and I know that many people avoid asking themselves the question. It is possible to love your husband but hate his addiction which makes it hard to walk away but sometimes – yes – it is necessary.
Whatever you decide to do, I will understand.
As Ever
Velvet