Hi PennyLane,
You are right, your brother needs to find help on his own.
I think the fact that you have all banded together on this is wonderful, he doesn’t know it yet but it is. No money = no gambling.
Enabling him is not doing him any favours!
You have done all you can for him in terms of support, the rest is up to him.
I am the compulsive gambler in my house, I found this site almost 12 years ago and apart from a couple of blips along the way I have remained gamble free ever since.
So yes, this addiction can be managed, in saying that, when in action it is almost impossible to see….it takes rock bottom to get there! It took me many many years to get to the point of screaming for help.
Don’t be disheartened, this site is brilliant and you have a wonderful friend in Velvet.
His anger is the addiction, it doesn’t want him to stop. It’s not personal (easy to say I know) and when the time comes he will know you are there for him.
Keep sharing, you are important too and knowledge is power.
Your brother is blessed to have you in his life!
Take care, K xxx
