Hi Lowlow
Well done writing what must have been a very difficult first post.
Your partner will not want to be the man he has become, he will be ashamed and frightened but there is help for him if he is willing to change his life. It isn’t easy but I know it is possible or I would not be writing to you now.
I hope that given time you will allow me to try and help you to turn your life back up the right way. You do not have the addiction to gamble and therefore you can recover from this – however black things seem at the moment.
It doesn’t surprise me that even after confessing, your partner continued gambling – it is the only way he thinks he can get out of the mess he has got himself into – that is the nature of his addiction.
Your partner will not know which way to turn at the moment so I suggest that when you speak to him, perhaps you might mention that you have sought support for yourself and been told that there is help for him. He will need determination and courage but he can do it. I will understand whatever you decide to do, I know how difficult it is not to shout, scream and threaten but it will not do any good, it will only wear you out and he will be unable to comprehend your meaning.
There is lots more that I want to say to you but it is late so I hope you will keep watching the forum – I will write a full reply to you asap.
If you read this tonight, I hope you will sleep a little better knowing that you have shared with someone who really understands and cares.
Velvet