Hi Again Autumn
When is your partner going to the Gordon Moody programme?
Maybe you could join me on either Tuesday or Thursday evening between 7pm and 8pm where we can communicate safely and with no holds barred!
Your partner admission that he needs help is a giant step forward; going on the programme is, in my opinion, the best thing he can do.
It is hard not being able to communicate so it is important that you keep the knowledge that he is in the right place, where he is understood, firmly at the forefront of your mind.
My loved one went through the Gordon Moody programme 16 years ago and it changed his life. It takes courage and determination but with the right tools your partner can live a wonderful gamble-free life, possibly better for having had the strength to face his addiction. Gordon Moody will give him those tools. It is my happy experience that the compulsive gamblers, that I have met and talked to, who have learned to control their addiction, are very special.
I used to call Gordon Moody once a week to make sure that my loved one ‘was still there’ and that he was ok. You can do this too. Facing his addiction is really hard and he needs to be selfish to do it – the time he is on the programme has to be all about him. You might feel left out by this which is why I hope you will keep posting and pop into the group for a good heart to heart.
Keep encouraging your partner – he is on the right road. Please wish him well for me. If he has any questions, he can call our Helpline which is great or maybe join out gambler-only group where he will be welcomed by Charles who will understand your partner and offer good support.
Velvet