Hi Lizbeth
Wow your mum is a piece of work isn’t she… I think its amazing that you are so kind to her and she gives you all this backlash and game playing.. it is a problem she has though and you dont so just do your best as you are doing. Maybe if she acts this way with you all the time dont invite her to so many things after she has been nasty. Maybe she could put two and two together and see if she is nasty then she misses out on the next visit or something.. i dont know if that is good advice to be honest.. i just say what comes out.
Glad you are the example of love to your daughter and grandson.
P