Hi DE, It can help to tell your family.
Whoever you tell it is important to not just present them with the problem – show them what you are going to DO about it. The actions that will help you stop gambling are the same actions that can help rebuild trust and give them cause to beleve that “Hey, Maybe he is really trying to stop now.” My family certainly had no reason to believe a word I said Until they could see I was going to GA, asked them to help with accountability etc
I would tell them now – by doing that and getting the help with the accountability you are more likely to be successful in getting to that gamble free month.
I lived away from home but there are still ways to be accountable. I had all bank statements sent to my mum’s address, had money transferrd to her account, so I couldnt access it then drip fed back to me as I needed it. These days with internet banking we can be pretty much instantly accountable even to someone on the opposite side of the world.
Don’t drip feed it, come completely clean. If you drip feed it them they wont know when you have finished dripping, will always be waiting for the next revelation. Also, if something you have kept hidden emerges then any trust earned will go out of the window even if you are doing everything else right.
Show them this site – we also have a friends and family forum and groups – they can see how to help you and also get support for themselves.
Want to save for a car/marriage etc – those arent short term things, put that money in an account you can’t access. You bought then had to sell cars in the past? Give the ovwnership documents needed to seel thhe car to whoever helps you with the accountability.
You want an online meeting? Check the group schedule here. There is also support at https://gamblersinrecovery.com Its online zoom meetings around the world – with different time zones its pretty much 24/7
Keep posting and let us know what positive stepsa you are taking, maybe see you in a group soon.