My sister was a drug addict, that gave me some experience of addiction. Looking back my husband was bringing some chaos to our lives for a while but no sign of gambling until we got married and then he did it in style. So much destruction, he nearly destroyed my whole life and yet it’s always me that
‘has to fix it’ I like to think of ringfencing, boxing the money up to keep it safe, put boundaries in place to keep me safe. Because neither of us can be helped otherwise. My husband went bankrupt and one of the hardest things is feeling unsafe, until the divorce and financials are sorted I’m still vulnerable. But yes I hear you when you talk about wanting to shout at them for being selfish!
Your ex can’t be trusted with his money how can he can be trusted with yours? Do you ‘always have to fix it’ even now?
Other people may have different experience but for me I know I cannot trust addiction. It lies to me!
Will try to make group on Tuesday xx
