Thank you so much for reaching back out to me. I found out after I made the post that he was still gambling and took out two more loans. I found out because I demanded to see his recent bank transactions and he refused to show me. After an hour of of negotiating for the truth, it came out. I was so disappointed since his family (aunt, brother, parents), recently gave him almost $18,000 total to get rid of the 600% interest payday loans. He used their money to gamble more. He said as of Friday night he is done and from here on out, I can see his bank transactions whenever I want as long as I don’t look at anything before last Friday. He has FINALLY (after since I caught him) is out of denial, admitted he has a problem, and has an appointment with a gambling addiction counselor on Thursday at 4pm.
I may need some counseling of my own though, to get over the pure aggression I have toward him now. I’m so angry, offended, disappointed, and broken. I’m taking it personally, etc. I would never do anything to hurt our family, so why is he? How could he not think about us when he was doing this? He knows we don’t have that kind of money. I’m in an incredible amount of pain over this and I’m trying really hard to understand that he is, too. It’s hard, though. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge through experience. It’s just what I needed right now.