Hi
For me reducing the amount I see, text and call my ex has been really good for me. I have been lonely for sometime in our marriage so not always communicating with him or seeing him has not been a big change for me. He has felt that change though and is angry by it. I don’t put him first anymore. I don’t make myself available to him as I did before. He does make wise cracks about me wanting “change”. I just smile to myself and carry on with the conversation. I am getting better with setting boundaries with him and being more assertive and sometimes he sees that as me being bitchy. I am just speaking my truth and he is not use to that.
I also keep a journal which I sometimes write harsh words and negatives thoughts but they need to come out and I find it healing. Some days I can feel sad, mad, bitter, and resentful. It makes for an exhausting day but I am dealing with the feelings instead of pushing them aside. Life for me has been isolating so I am looking into things to get me out of the house. It has been an eye opening journey so far.
Talk soon
CB