[Thomas1987]

Thank you for your insight…much appreciated.
No she has no idea that he gambles….she asked him but he said that he does the odd bet.
I mean, I put my now wife through this for 5 years and it was a tough period and her family were so good with me that I feel I have a responsibility to do something as they don’t deserve to go through this again.

I have a number of fears:
– I don’t want to hurt either of them.
– if the relationship ends , what effect will this have on both , more some my friend.
– the dynamics of friendships that both families share.

It’s jus known what to do or whether I do anything at all