Hi gvralis,
It’s been a couple years. I don’t know if you still following this, but I was curious how you are doing with your girlfriend Nguyen. As for me, I’m still hanging in there. I was considering doing a legal separation. In the last couple years, my wife continues to borrow money from our joint account, and promises to pay me back. She says at the end of this year she will stop going to casino, but still wants to leave it open for occasional trips. The latest thing is, the casinos are giving out gifts like first $20 free play or gift cards to Amazon and gas stations, free pots and pans and etc. So she makes excuse that she goes to get all the freebees, but of course they want to lure them in to get them to gamble more, which she does. She borrowed over $50000 in the last year. I keep track, and promised her I will subtract her losses from her half in the event that we do separate, and in our state, they will allow a spouse to be compensated for losses from a gambling spouse. I would also ask for compensation for college education for our daughter. I discussed this with my wife, and she says she doesn’t want to separate, and believes she will stop actively gambling by the end of this year. I told her that first she needs to prove she has stopped, and has to cut up all her credit cards and show me proof all her credit cards are paid off. She agreed to that, so time will tell, but I feel that I do have this threat of legal separation in my back pocket in case she continues her lies and deception.
It’s funny, but she says she still loves me, and wants to take care of me in my old age. She says she can bring me to the casino in my wheelchair, when I can no longer get around on my own. I’m not in a wheelchair now, just saying if it happened, she would do that for me. She just doesn’t seem to get that I don’t want the casino to be a part of our lives.