Hi
Its great to see you’ve taken an important step, well a few important steps..
being honest with others allows you to be honest with yourself and this is such an important thing to do . Secondly seeking professional support is in my opinion a great way to move forward
Your line “I don’t know how I can repair this without putting my family through more pain” the pain is there, will you cause more pain by actively seeking help… or will they if you commit actually be given the space to heal and recover
It doesn’t happen overnight but it does happen if and I say again “IF” you 100% commit to recovery
Be proud of your actions and Id strongly advise your wife gets support, this can be done through Gamcare also or indeed our online groups and forums https://www.gamblingtherapy.org/en/why-not-try-our-friends-and-family-online-support-groups