Hi Momo
The more lies a person tells, the more they lose reality – lies consume their memories until lies become their truth. It happens with many compulsive gamblers.
How old is your son Momo? Children sadly do not understand and often think that their parents should be able to sort out every problem – it is only as adults that we realise that nothing is ever that simple. The nature of the addiction to gamble is secretive and divisive which your young son could not possibly understand; he is probably directing his anger towards the person he feels is strongest, the one he feels can protect him and that is you.
I can imagine how difficult to is for you to deal with an attorney who appears to have a strategy in place for disrupting your life so I hope you will get an attorney who will be understanding of your position – can any of your friends recommend one?
From what you say, it would appear, that your husband is not receiving counselling; if he is then he is not listening to any advice. A dedicated addiction counsellor would disabuse him completely from using his mother’s gas card, which is blatant enablement.
I am not opting out but I cannot tell you what to do. It is important that you make your own decisions for your future when you are seeking to recover from a bad experience. You are aware now about what is hurting you and as I have said before you are stronger than you think you are and stronger than your husbasnd’s addiction. . Make a pact with yourself not to be diminished or laid waste with fear and you will make the right decisions for you and your children.
I suggest that it is good to keep a journal of your husband’s behaviour – a lot of what you have written in your first posts is an excellent start. It helps when seeing an attorney to know what it is that ‘you’ want and what you do not want.
My thoughts are with you
Speak soon
Velvet