Hi BL, that all sounds really positive and as if you husband is committed to recovery which is such a good thing. My partner and I split up for 7 years during the ups and downs of early recovery and he was in residential therapy before that so I feel you pain with the separation. The relationship we have now though is beyond anything I could of ever imagined though because of the work we have both done on ourselves we can connect in a much closer and more meaningful way. While one partner is full of the thought of gambling and the other is full of fear of the gambling it is very hard to maintain any sort of relationship let alone a healthy one so try to see this time apart as an investment in your future. The fact your husband wants to protect you shows how much he cares about you.
Many find it hard to have family at a group initially and sometimes always, there is a lot of guilt and shame attached and there maybe things he is not ready to tell you yet or that he thinks would hurt you to hear. You maybe able to find a group of your own to attend elsewhere though where you can concentrate on your own recovery.
It seems to me you are both doing really well which is a great testament to you both as individually and to your relationship. Keep taking it one day at a time and before you know it things will have moved forward in a way you could never of imagined. Lily x