I havent updated for a while or made it to “see” you all in the group.
Thanks for all the kind messages. Start date is still a long way off (more than 2 months) so its still same old, different day. My current job have no idea that I will be leaving so I’m going to put a real spanner in the works there, which will be hell.
Vera, I havent told “himself” yet. typically for me its all going to be very messy. Because my start date is such a long time off, its going to overlap with his 30th birthday. I decided not to tell him until i have a start date and i have handed in my notice. so i will have a very stressful week next week. I know i am going to be pretty low that week as i will be letting a lot of people down with my decision to move on (Not me, its right for me).
Sadly the games happened this week. lies that his mum had his money, lies that he had sent money to me (inc a screenshot of a payment to me that would never make it to my account). And it all became too much for him. time with his son and time with me were sacrificed to escape into his own world.
hard to see and hard to have to go through all of the lies and cover ups, still…again…
But just another confirmation that nothing is going to change. So moving forwards is the right choice for me.
I have tried my best. I tried again to speak to him as he has made a few references to having a stressful life, and also comments that its not easy for him to get to a bookies near me when he was visiting(so was actively looking). but he doesnt want to accept help. he doesnt want things to change.
I followed it up with messages of support, which were ignored. It makes me sad that no matter how hard I try, its not enough.
So yeah, a great future ahead, still not in touching distance yet.