Hi Victor, well done on looking for help.
Day Trading is just a different form of gambling and this is a gambling addiction.
You stopped before so the good news is that you know you can stop again. This time though use support. You are already looking at counselling which is great but it is important to use ongoing support as well. Here, somewhere like Gamblers Anonymous or where ever.
The barriers that will help you are the same as for gambling as well. I am sure that your wife will be delighted to help you with the financial accountability that will mean you can’t gambel in secret. You only lost a lt of money because you had easy access to it.
Keep posting, keep using support. You can stop trading/gambling I promise you.