Glad to hear you are getting Union support, Jenny. Makes a big difference when a union rep is present at a meeting with management. The bullies change into pussycats. I laugh when I look back on it now….
Glad your parents have a neighbour looking in. Means a lot . You will have peace of mind in that regard.
It’s very hard to say what’s happening with you ex. As a gambler, I know a bit about the “CG”mindtricks and I would say CONFUSION is the outcome in many cases. I even felt myself becoming confused at times.
I know it is easier said than done, Jenny but dwelling on what you could have done or on what he might or might not do won’t change a thing. If he has debts they are HIS problem not yours. Tough luck if he doesn’t pay up. Let him suffer the consequences. Passing his baggage on to you is part of the “game”. Don’t rise to the bait. CGs are clever. We can read minds. LOL! Stress and confusion go hand in hand. He seems to be manipulating you but I say that without judgement. Being nice to the kids and “getting wrecked” that night would make me VERY wary. It seems he is putting the best side forward but really hasn’t moved on at all. Would it be any help (just a suggestion now, in case anyone thinks I’m telling you how to conduct your recovery)if you drew up an agreement together to have no contact for, say six months? That would prevent the children being drawn into situations that might create confusion or disappointment , it would give you a bit of head space and give “himself” time to get his act together.
Try not to deal with everything together Jenny. It becomes overwhelming otherwise.
