Hi Kathryn
I have never bothered about Valentine’s Day either and I am saddened that this one has upset you.
I wasn’t in the group (obviously) but can’t help thinking that the men on this site do a lot more inner thinking about themselves and those around them. I believe that having the courage to commit to a life-time controlling an addiction brings out more than just stopping gambling.
You certainly had a rotten evening and not just with the lack of roses and a card. Let go of all your guilt – you are not a dogsbody and deserve so much more. If you feel guilty about kicking such a terrible addiction into the corner, with so much determination, it possibly shows in how you behave, so don’t be frightened – you are incredibly brave and deserve, at the very least, a holiday in Bali.
We never celebrated Valentine’s Day in our house because it was my Mum’s birthday. I don’t like it because I think it leaves so many people sad so I expect nothing from it. Probably my expectations mean I get nothing from it. We will make a pact that next year you and I will demand to be treated like queens. You will not come home from work and carry on working – you will have tea made for you and you will not feel guilty.
I wonder if the men who spoke in the group always felt as they do now. We all need telling sometimes Kathryn. We all need someone to show us the way. You do it for so many on here – so show your husband the way.
I will be at the front of the queue, elbowing Laura out of the way, to bop you on the nose with your Valentine’s Day post, if you dare feel guilt about something that you deserve.
Velvet
