Hi Bettie
Unfortunately not everybody can know about this wonderful site and the lesson it gives us all (well most anyway x) in how to not judge others.
As I child when I was hurt by comments my mother used to tell me that the child who had done it was jealous but it never seemed to help.
In later life though, what her message did for me was taught me to look at the person who was judging me or judging another. When do you ever hear a person judging another with a smile on their face?
I think that judgment-makers are concealing something that worries them – attack being the greatest form of defence. Hurt someone else before they hurt you.
There will obviously be the well-meaning accidental pain inflicted such as your daughter in the store. I would imagine he was mortified and I am sorry your daughter was hurt.
Cruel remarks have no place on this site thank goodness.
Bettie – your weight does not reflect the person that you are. It is the person that is ‘you’ that matters – nothing else.
Don’t feel ‘ok’ about thinking it is too late for you. How true Harry’s signature quote it to such a though "Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny".
Banish negativity from your mind. Look at what you have achieved. You are a terrific supporter of others. You are loving and kind. You are a wonderful mum.
When others drag you down, instead of reeling back with the hurt, stop and look at them. Does the opinion of the person hurting you really matter? Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. Unasked for nastiness tells us a great deal more about the person doing the criticizing.
I would welcome your friendship over anybody who judges others and I don’t care what colour, creed, shape, size they are. You are a beautiful person. Look after yourself.
Velvet
