Originally posted by bettie… – I know don’t defend him-but …
he said he understood … He told me not to feel bad …
Bettie, my replies normally pertain to gambling problems, and I know that personal problems and gambling are connected and can not be readily separated. With this being the case the thoughts I have on your defending your "friend" are questions ask about your recovery from gambling; If a casino PR man, "another friend", called you being sympathetic to your breaking up with the them, saying that they understand and for you to not to feel bad because your had abandoned them, that they knew they did not provide what you were looking for and that you only stayed with them in the past and let them screw you over because you were a nice person, (And in reality saying, we have a heart, but only for ourselves; start thinking that we can do better, give us another chance now that you know how nice and carrying we are, believe that what little you are getting from us is worth all we are taking — come back to us), what would you think? Would you think that your rational thoughts and their proven poor record was perhaps completely wrong, that the BS that they were feeding you to win you over was the real truth after all? Or would you see through their hidden agenda and hang up?
I firmly believe that you would hang up and might even change your number, that you would not fall for the "nice guy" BS again. I would even think that you would even use the same reasoning with any type "friend", and not let their BS sway you either. Following the Steps and what you learn in working on recovery from gambling, can help you in other decisions too.
I know that the advertising and promotions are only to win over every single person so that they can have their way with them; and I am pretty sure that your "friends" motives run alone the same lines. Neither of these opinions just happen to me mine, they were part of my life. I experienced the temptations of the casinos and the smooth talk that they provided; and alas, when I was in my "sowing-wild-oats" days (a cliche of justification too kind for my actual acts) I would say anything to win over the affection of an unsuspecting soul, I would put up will all of the complaining and demanding for a different type relationship as long as it was said afterwards when I was on my way out not caring in the least what they were saying — as long as they got over it and took me back whenever I felt like it. This is not judging your "friend", it is however, right or wrong lumping him in the category of being a "dog" based on what I have seen when running in the pack. BTW, I am no longer that person, but know that the pack still runs loose.
Well these are only my thoughts, and I hope that if I came to you with a similar scenario and said that this nice guy (gambling) was winning me back over by being nice and showing that they had a heart, that you would try to bring me to my senses and have me look deeply into what was really taking place and what the outcome and consequences would be.
God’s speed. Stay strong.LarryThanks to my Higher Power, My 3G’s – God, GA, and GT, "Day Two Is Another Day Behind" and with the help from all , I will continue to remain gambling free.