Dear (((Liz)))!
I’m sorry that you are hurting right now! I have to agree with what Vera said. I have read your posts and you have been running yourself ragged trying to help your daughter. You don’t even live in the city/town, and yet you make that commute like she lives around the corner. I know you want to lessen the stress for your daughter as she is in drug recovery, but she doesn’t seem to have grasped the simple premise that she is responsible for her own behavior. No matter what has happened to us in life starting as children, we need to deal with it, and move on. In my opinion, you have done too much for her since your husband died. Vera is right that were it not for you and your husband, your grandson could very well have ended up in gov’t care. Your daughter was very mean-spirited to have told you that you will see your grandson on her terms. Your grandson will badger his mother to see you, so I wouldn’t worry about not seeing him. It’s a pattern that has happened before when you have had conflict with your daughter. I think it’s time to take on a grandmother’s role and let your grandson’s parents deal with the day to day care of their child. I would suggest not responding to her texts as you are both upset now. Let the situation cool down, as nothing good can come at this time. It seems that she sees you as an ATM because you have set it up like that. I don’t mean to hurt you with that statement. Enjoy your new home and spend time working in your yard if that’s what you want to do. Nature is a great healer and getting your hands in the dirt soothes the soul. Carole
