Hi Hema
You write that he ‘gave you control of his finances’ but in actuality he did not, you are merely holding his money until he demands it.
With regards to your jewellery or anything else that is precious to you, I suggest you keep it somewhere that he has no knowledge about. I think you are saying that he has stolen your gold jewellery from you and if he has, then I suspect he could do it again.
If he is willing to talk about changing his life then ask him to go back to Gamstop and inform them that he successfully used a cash machine. Your husband needs to take responsibility for his actions if he is interested in being gamble-free.
Remind him to renew Gamban on his phone and remind him of why he did it in the first place. Let him know that you are suggesting these things because he said he wanted support and you are trying to give it.
Maybe you could ask him what he wants you to do to support him. It is easy to slip into pleading and arguing about a gambling addiction but it doesn’t solve anything. Perhaps you could tell him that you want to support him but you can’t unless he helps you understand.
Please make sure that every day you do things that please you. It might not seem a lot but spending 24 hours a day worrying about a loved one’s gambling is soul destroying and helps no-one, least of all yourself and your children. Your husband will not stop gambling because you are worrying, it will merely wear you out and achieve nothing.
There is no such thing a crystal ball Hema but please do not give up hope. I will walk with you for as long as you want me to. I do know that your husband can learn to control his addiction or I wouldn’t be writing to you, although, sadly he has to want to do so.
I have brought my thread entitled The F&F Cycle up to the top for you, maybe it will help.
Please keep posting and maybe we can find the words or whatever it takes to help you cope.
Velvet