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Does that mean, nobody is to use THIS thread to offer support?
Do you want to keep a record here on GT, where you write your thoughts and feelings , with no interjection from other members?
That’s acceptable if you do.
I doubt if anybody here wants to “pick apart” or “prove you to be a liar”. Maybe that’s a bit of an over reaction.
In Support Groups issues are often raised that may be a bit too near the bone for some people but I don’t think any of the CGs here are in a position to “throw the first stone”. Do you?
Tell me if I am out of order and I will squiff this post.ps. Unlike you, I DO like having my thoughts quoted back to me. It gives me time to reflect on how my thoughts and indeed feelings can and do change.
Feelings! AH! That can be a bit more tricky! If I were to act on my feelings, I might be in trouble. That’s why I need to rise above feelings and fall back on sound judgement and reason.
These are the bedrock of Recovery, I -did -it.
Thoughts and feelings change like the wind.
Sound judgement keeps us stable.Its been over a week since you posted, Kin.
Give us an update when you are ready.
I hope you got your job sorted out and your salary paid?
I know money is not everything but we need it to survive.
The ONE thing we DO NOT need is GAMBLING!!!Missed you in the group, SJ.
Take care.
Talk soon.My Recovery has been far from perfect, Mutley. My debt will take a LONG time to pay off but I have set up a parallel Savings Scheme so that I can see some balance in my finances. By the time the debt is paid, I will also have something to show for my efforts. I would strongly recommend this to recovering CGs who have lost a lot of money.
Yes, I hear you about the “BEGRUDGERS” who try to drag us down. Envy and jealousy is at the root of that behaviour. Also, when people have a crowd to hide behind, it allows actions to be justified.
“Cowardice” is the word I would use to describe that carry on.
Just ignore them and stick with the positive friends.Lead by example!
Some days, Mutley we sort of glide through Recovery and other days can be rough.
Take the rough with the smooth. Time passes whether we gamble or not.
We can choose to leave a trail of destruction or we can re build our lives.
We are ONLY powerless over gambling when we make that first bet.
URGES have no power over us.
(I read some of your posts on other threads. Well done on your G free time)
ODAATLife is a journey, Jon.
Every step we take leaves a footprint.
Every action has a consequence.
You have lots of time to undo the damage you created by gambling . The alternative is to succumb to the urge and find yourself writing the same ol’ same in 20 years time.
Who wants to leave such a legacy?
Not me!!
How about you?
No time like the present to start again!Being aware of the reasons for your relapse is the key to prevention , Kin.
Don’t surrender.
You are not powerless over every aspect of your life. You are only powerless over gambling.
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change…….”Don’t waste time or words explaining your position, Jay.
I used to gamble in response to my husband’s “lack of trust”. I justified my gambling by saying “I might as well gamble, since he doesn’t believe me”. The reality is Jay, we blew the trust with people who deserved better. Now its pay back time, to some degree. CGs are quick to pick up the tab and try to defend ourselves. My suggestion would be to change the topic when it arises. Your fiancé needs to attend Family and Friends or Gamanon to learn when to talk and when to remain silent. Dipping a CGs nose in his past mistakes helps nobody.
Just bite your lip, keep doing what you are doing and eventually she will begin to trust you again.
Actions speak louder than words.
Thanks for posting to my thread.
well done on 9 G free weeks.The Weekend is made up of two days, 3raser.
Take them one at a time.
They are no different than any other days.
To be honest , weekends never meant anything to me. EVERY day was a gambling day when I was “active”.
In fact days and nights overlapped.I often didn’t know what day it was!
Just make a plan to do something totally different tomorrow and the same for Sunday and before you know it , Monday will be here.
Because you are barred, then you have a better chance of not gambling.Pray as if everything depends on God and
ACT as if everything depends on you, Roberto
then you will be ready for “the next attack”!‘Hope the Baby Shower went well, Bettie. We don’t have that here (well, I think it is creeping in among the Asian Community, based on U.S. ways.)
I wish Jen all the best in her final trimester. Not easy for you when your health is below par. Don’t over do it when you should be resting.
Don’t put yourself last, B. Our adult kids have to take personal responsibility and not leave it all to Mama!
Take it easy!
Stay in touch!Sorry to hear you were caught unawares and gambled, Kin.
Moral of the story? Avoid watching matches! The temptation is too great. You may have “won” a bit of money but you lost your peace of mind. NO money can buy that!
Glad to hear your surgery went well.
Well done on your honesty.Condolences on the loss of your friend, Ican.
Grief is painful. There is no way to avoid it.Gambling is all an illusion, 3Raser.
Recovery helps us to see reality. Don’t worry about the flashbacks. They come with the territory.
Well done on 10 G free days but remember the motto “one day at a time”!