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Bettie,
That is just awful news.
You really are getting a rough run.
Will keep Jen in the prayers.
‘Hope you’re enjoying the “little man”
I bet he is chubby and cuddly!Back to the Drawing Board, Just 26.
Nothing ever changes in the gambling world. except for the worst!
You need to apply some of the advice you have been given before you lose more money.
Can you ask your partner to handle the finances?
It will give you some breathing space.
Gambling overwhelms us to the point where we see it as the only solution to our problems.When we rely on pride and ego, our plans will always fail. Kin.
Recovery is easier when we surrender, one day at a time.Long term illness /conditions that involve pain are poorly understood, Laura.
I’m sorry to hear you have to suffer alone. I hear you on the sleep difficulties.
I’m sure you have tried all the alternative methods as well as the conventional ones. Balance between rest and exercise , heat and cold seems to be effective for some chronic pain sufferers.
Gambling would probably lull the pain too but think of the awful consequences you would have to deal with.
Hopefully you will find some less expensive relief.I’m delighted that you are going for a “premium” holiday, I-did-It, instead of a settling for a lower grade hotel and flight. You might as well go in style if you are going at all.
Of course you will have money in the future. All you need do is refrain from gambling. ( Maybe you might even meet a rich toy boy LOL!)
Hope you have a ball!Sixty days now!
Brilliant!
One day at a time. Stay focused!Hi TF.
I know how you feel right now. I lost c o u nt of the high interest loans I took out. In the end I was getting loans to pay off debt . How crazy is that? And even crazier , as soon as I would lay my hand on the cash, I would shoot straight off to the casino and lose the lot in a few hours, then I would have to phone the agent from the loan company a week later with a cock ‘n bull story and repeat the same process. MADNESS!!
The bottom line is we are Compulsive Gamblers which means we will never, never, never win .Therefore gambling is a pointless exercise. I knew that for years, yet a small part of my brain convinced me I had limited control. CGs don’t have any control over gambling. Gambling controls us.
Let this be your final loan T.
When you find yourself in six figure debt , it becomes really scary.
Stop handing cash. It’s like carrying a loaded gun. Lethal!
Well done on starting over.
You CAN stop gambling. You have your whole life ahead of you.
Just for today do not take out a loan!!Well done, Just 26!
You are not thinking of “winning” back what you lost.
I would suggest that you go to StepChange or MABS where you will be given professional assistance and advice with your finances.
I already had accumulated HUGE gambling debt which I pay monthly. The PLAN was an extra emergency measure to prevent me from going off my nut when my lump sum disappeared into cyber space.
First of all you need to realize that gambling is not about money.
The problem goes deeper than that.
If you are only 26 and have so much debt you need to ask yourself and answer honestly, how much of that debt was created by gambling?
Secondly, does your partner know about this debt and does he know you gamble?
As Kathryn said ” secrets keep us sick”. In fact gambling addiction thrives on secrecy. The danger for a CG saving money secretly also means we can spend it in secret. Every time I wanted to gamble , the first thought always was “Nobody needs to know”. Because gambling is a progressive illness which creeps up insidiously, the sooner we bring it out in the open, the better chance we have of overcoming the problem.
In reality, a CG cannot handle money in the “acute” phase of our addiction.
Stay close to this site.
Use the Open Groups and the Helpline where you can speak to the GT Staff. I am only speaking from my own experience.
Yes I know why you are saying you can’t believe it has come to this but in years to come you will look back and be thankful that things came to a head early in your life. Believe me, gambling can ruin not only the gambler’s life but all who come in touch with us.
Would you consider telling your partner you need help with your gambling issue, without going into the finer details?
The sooner somebody knows you have the problem, the better chance you have of not destroying your life.
Keep posting!Monday! That was quick, Sam!
You have a couple of days to pack. I wish you all the best for your therapy. Keep an open mind and lay all your cards on the table.
(Say hello to Paul ( a fellow resident) from me, if you meet up with him)
Keep us posted!Well done Darren.
‘Been there done that with regard to walking into “play areas”.
Bad move! It says in the GA literature “don’t tempt or test yourself”. That makes sense to me.
Like you, I am fixated on restoring my losses and putting gambling down to a past experience, keeping in mind that when things improve financially, complacency is likely to set in.
As a matter of interest, were you carrying cash and cards on your trip??Kin, someone told me once to
“pray as if everything depends on God and act as if everything depends on you”!
Makes sense , doesn’t it!
(nice to meet old friends in dreams)Micky, are you still collecting the £1 a day?
How many now?Velvet, I want to offer my sincere condolences on the loss of your dear brother. May he rest in peace.
Hello Just26,
I have arrived home from a GA Meeting this minute and when I read your post, it took me back to March 2015, when I deposited money with an online casino and to my horror, my retirement fund was wiped out before my eyes.
Gone.
Never to return.
I know exactly how you feel. I stayed in bed for a week shaking in shock and disbelief too.
I couldn’t see beyond the loss.
Then, a member of this site, sent me a message. It said
“Make a plan”
The Plan was to save a sum of money every week/month in an account that I could not touch…of course it also meant my gambling days had to come to an end. I already had a six figure debt after many years of gambling which caused me to retire on disability due to illness caused by stress and now my “lump sum” was gone!
Fast forward to June 2017.
I slowly watched the Plan develop. Month by month it grew. On the 12th of June I will be recording here that I now have a 5 figure sum restored. Still not the full amount that I threw away but enough to provide the security I need.
I’m telling you this to help you to recover from your shock.
When the terrible pain subsides (it will take time) get that PLAN set up.
By Christmas you could have half your money back but ONLY if you stop gambling now.
Keep posting.
You will get lots of support here if you do.“No gambling to report” is the best part of your post, Mav. The rest is all within normal limits. You still have lots of time to end the nightmare.
Keep it simple!