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I didn’t see any post from you during the month of June, Maverick.
Heading into the 2nd week of July soon.
Are the kids on school holidays yet?
I hope you are making the best of whatever life throws up to you. One day at a time Mav. Nothing is ever perfect, but gambling solves nothing. You know that!just checking in to say hello, Micky!
Everything ok?How are things Paul?
Is it tomorrow you start your new job?
I just want to let you know I’m thinking of you and wish you the very best, one day at a time.
Give us an update when you can.Glad to hear you are improving Jon.
Yes, I agree. Support in GT is sadly lacking. We need to put as much effort into supporting each other as we did when we were in dire need. Our initial posts were made in desperation. Maybe people are better at responding to “calls for help” rather than following through with members’ progress. A bit more input on every member’s part would make a big difference.It’s great to see how far you have come in such a short time, Paul. Thanks for your posts. Congrats. on getting a new job too.
Life passes us by when we choose to gamble. Live your life one day at time and keep it very simple.Be careful, JayKay,
Paying off a debt means you have more credit available.
Be ready to turn down any new offers.
Does your partner know about this?Going today???
Enjoy your holiday.Great poem, Minefield
The man in the mirror will follow you when you stop following him….be carefulGreat poem, Minefield
The man in the mirror will follow you when you stop following him….be carefulJonny,
There is only one thing worse than blaming yourself and that is when we blame others. I know people who do and I often blamed others too. “If only he/she had/hadn’t/said/done this or that”….not uncommon. I even met people who blamed the machines in the casinos. “If only these machines weren’t rigged, I could play like a normal person.”
Bottom line, Jon, we are to blame. We did it. We gave into our base instincts. We refused to listen. We screwed up. Over and out. That being said, we don’y need to crucify ourselves forever. What we need to do is CHANGE.
Change our actions. Change our habits. Change our mindset,
The rest will follow.
One day at a time.
You are doing brilliantly.
I’m not doing too badly myself!
Let’s give each other a clap on the back.Welcome to both, but it would be far easier to get support if you start your own thread. It confuses things, otherwise.
Twnmum: I’m very sorry to hear you lost your husband two years ago and “to add insult to injury”you are now losing his insurance . That is not uncommon, sadly. When a spouse passes on, the remaining partner goes though stages of grief which cause us to act in ways that are often out of character. Have you had bereavement counselling? This could shed some light on why you gambled madly, like you did, causing further loss and pain.
For now, though, the first thing you need to do is STOP gambling.
Cut your losses and walk away. It is extremely difficult but if you are self excluded (banned) from all local casinos it is a start.
If you go in to the casino to ban, bring NO money with you and maybe take a friend along , you will not gamble.
We need to draw a line under our past actions and start anew.
The first and most difficult thing you need to realize is that you will never get your money back. Secondly, you need to accept that you are totally powerless over gambling. Thirdly, accept that it is a progressive illness that doesn’t ever go away.
Good luck with your first GA meeting.
I would suggest you stay back after the meeting and ask to speak to a member who will give you a few helpful tips and phone number that you can contact if you feel like gambling tomorrow.
Well done on coming here to GT.Mr Exon,
You are very young. Your life will be far better off without gambling. It IS possible to stop and stay stopped one day at a time.
Keep posting.Delighted to hear things went well for you Paul. I prayed for you every day. St Anthony guides us in the right direction if we don’t stand in His way!
Most of the mistakes we make in Life are because we want to do things “our way”. For a CG , that’s leads to total disaster as you know.
Are you in a “Halfway House” now Paul?So sorry to hear you are still in pain, Laura. Have the docs suggested surgery, at all? Not being able to drive is a deterrent to keep you G free but on the other hand , it’s a big drawback.
Life should be about more than survival. I hope all avenues of treatment are being looked into. Don’t let them put you on the scrap heap, Laura. Keep yelling for attention. Not easy I know. Above all keep moving!Thanks for posting to my thread, Micky.
Faith is like a flower- without water, it will die.
Hope, Faith’s sister – an answer to the gambling lie
Charity, the fruit of both brings to all, true peace and joy
And blessings beyond the wildest dreams of even you and I !Hi Logic,
I haven’t posted for a while (due to bad internet, power cuts and good weather) but I have read your posts.
A “clean”break is never what it says on the box (look at Brexit LOL!)
Break ups are often difficult, painful, sad and “dirty”.
You are making 4 breaks.
One with your job.
The other with your location.
Third with your “guy”,
Fourth with your CG’s addiction.
I have been through similar breaks in life and I have also experienced the ultimate break, Death ( being a golden oldie)
I can tell you there is no easy route and there are “break ups” in life that are more difficult than death.
Why? because the S.O is still there to haunt us.
Your CG is playing all the games. He knows the knock on effects when he chooses to ignore you. He knows when to be apologetic. He knows how his self pity and sulking will tug on your heart strings. He says all the right things.
When a CG speaks of how badly his bets are going, he really means ” I need to try harder/bet more to resolve this”. When he says “Things will never change I will always need to bet” he means “I’m going to use my CG label as an excuse to continue gambling. I don’t intend stopping (at least , not now”). When he roars/swears/ verbally abuses you , he is saying “Get out of my way. You are cramping my style/ it’s all your fault”. When he posts “send to many videos/texts” he is laughing inside, knowing the person he intended them for will read/watch and walk straight into his trap.
Words mean nothing to a CG so spare your words. Action is all we understand.Having our gambling supplies cut off is the greatest dread for a CG.Stop walking into his traps, Logic. There are many ways, apart from money that a CG gains enablement. He may be setting traps unconsciously but you need to be aware of the danger they impose.
The ONLY way you will succeed in living a new life is to leave every little bit of him behind.
I know how difficult that is.
When I walked away from gambling, I returned many times.
Why?
Because I left part of myself in the casinos.
I know I said this before. Don’t leave any part of yourself behind.
Pack up. Move on. Broken hearts heal. Wounds and scars fade. You will learn new coping skills as you move forward in life.
If you allow your CG or his addiction to continuously open your wounds, they will fester and never heal.
Gambling is a progressive illness.
He is wearing his “victim’s cloak”. His choice. Not your problem today.
Kiss him good bye (on the cheek) and move on!
It’s called TOUGH LOVE!