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Yes, Jay. Those emails from gambling establishments are a huge temptation and a source of relapse for many CGs.
I hope you sent them a response, threatening legal action if they persist in breaching contracts with ex clients. They have a legal obligation not to do that, surely?no gambling today
Jenny, it sounds as if your ex is resorting to bully tactics.
With his record, he stands little chance of gaining access to your daughter. I doubt if he will follow through. The law is not on the side of a negligent /inconsistent dad.
I would strongly advise you to document EVERYTHING. Time, date, place and incident. Positive and negative. Contemporaneous notes are vital for legal cases.
Can you contact the Social Services to request free legal aid for your daughter? Even if you are not entitled to FLA your daughter should be while she is still a minor and the subject of her dad’s actions.
Keep a cool head.Thanks for posting to my thread, Cathy!
‘Hope you have come to terms with your son’s issues and that you are sticking to your own Recovery . It is up to your son to deal with his gambling problems . I hope he is getting his life back on track one day at a time. Some days are easier than others.Another gamble free day ahead
Nobody in GA or in GT will suggest that you can never gamble again, I-DID-IT.
It’s always “just for today”.
Don’t let anyone’s written word put you off. Paper won’t refuse ink!We’ve all been there to one degree or another, Monica.
You need time to recover. Time to heal. Time to surrender.
Every Rock Bottom has a trap door.
Just for today, accept that gambling has you beaten.
Tomorrow will bring something new.
Keep posting!CGs are probably the most likely people to be deemed “Toxic” when we are in action, but in my experience most people have more good than bad in them. Personally, I dislike the term “toxic”! Our perception of others is not always clear when we are gambling. Everyone who refused to enable me could have been seen as a “toxic *************** ” but when I changed, most of their “toxic” flaws seemed to have no effect on me! I try to apply the adage “Judge not and you will not be judged” these days. Taking the “plank from my own eye” is more difficult than “seeing the mote in my brother’s eye”!!!
GA is not for everyone, I-did-it. The only requirement needed is a desire to stop gambling. You say you don’t want to be free from gambling, yet you want to be free from the compulsion -the addiction. I was honestly the same as you.I felt if gambling was removed I would have no life.
GA will help you to see that from a different viewpoint. I’ve met hundreds of people in GA. Some , I relate well to. Others don’t interest me in the least but I have to admit that everyone I have met genuinely wants recovery for themselves and for other members. Unity, Honesty and Openness are the key requirements from what I have observed by attending approximately 200 meetings over a span of 80 weeks.
The opposite (Dishonesty, Secrecy, Singularity) are the things that make gambling possible for a CG.
These are the traits that destroy us.
Gambling and the “hangover” go hand in hand. (Like the old song “Love n Marriage”!!)
We can’t have one without the other!No gambling today
(This “pact” has helped to keep you grounded, Kin. Good move coming here!)
I will not gamble today because CGs never win.
No gambling today
Any particular reason for the break Micky?
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It took me a long, long time to let go of my loss, Dabbers. The trouble with holding on is that we keep trying to win back what we lost. I knew I would never win it back, yet I kept trying. Then, one night a man said at a GA meeting “gamblers never win” and the proverbial penny dropped. Although I still grieve my loss, its at a different level now. I have a lot of debt but its manageable and I just pay it mechanically, one week/month at a time.
Look at the wider picture and you will realize that money is the least of our losses.
Try not to dwell on it.