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ایک نکتہ جو ہم نے آج رات گروپ میں کھو دیا ، چارلس یہ ہے کہ اگرچہ ہم اپنے جوئے کو دوبارہ کنٹرول نہیں کر سکتے ، ہم کنٹرول کر سکتے ہیں کہ اگلی شرط ہمارے پاس ہے یا نہیں۔ میں آج اپنے رویے کو ان طریقوں سے کنٹرول کرتا ہوں جو مجھے ایک کنٹرولڈ جواری بننے کی کوشش پر بھی غور کرنے کی اجازت نہیں دے گا۔ جب میرے رویے نے جوئے کے لیے میرا رویہ بھی تبدیل کیا۔ میرے خیال میں سب کچھ ایک مختلف ذہنیت کے ساتھ کرنا ہے۔ میں مونڈو سے 100٪ متفق ہوں۔ ایک بار جب ہم لائن عبور کر کے اس مقام پر پہنچ جاتے ہیں جہاں جوا ہمیں کنٹرول کر لیتا ہے ، پھر پیچھے نہیں ہٹنا پڑتا۔

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Satu poin yang kami lewatkan di Grup malam ini, Charles adalah bahwa meskipun kami tidak dapat mengontrol perjudian kami lagi, kami BISA mengontrol apakah kami memiliki taruhan berikutnya. Saya mengendalikan perilaku saya hari ini dengan cara yang tidak memungkinkan saya untuk mempertimbangkan mencoba menjadi penjudi yang terkontrol. Ketika perilaku saya berubah, sikap saya terhadap perjudian juga berubah. Semua berkaitan dengan mengembangkan pola pikir yang berbeda, saya pikir. Saya setuju 100% dengan Mondo. Begitu kita melewati batas ke titik di mana perjudian mengendalikan kita, tidak ada jalan untuk kembali.

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Punt wieħed li tlifna fil-Grupp illejla, Charles huwa li għalkemm ma nistgħux nikkontrollaw il-logħob tal-azzard tagħna qatt aktar, NISTA 'nikkontrollaw jekk għandniex dik l-imħatra li jmiss. Illum nikkontrolla l-imġieba tiegħi b'modi li ma jippermettux li nikkunsidra anke li nipprova nsir lagħba kkontrollata. Meta l-imġieba tiegħi biddlet l-attitudni tiegħi għall-logħob tal-azzard inbidlet ukoll. Kollox x'jaqsam ma 'l-iżvilupp ta' mentalità differenti, naħseb. Naqbel 100% ma 'Mondo. Ladarba naqsmu l-linja sal-punt fejn il-logħob tal-azzard jikkontrollana, m'hemmx tidwir lura.

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Een punt dat we vanavond in de groep hebben gemist, Charles, is dat hoewel we ons gokken nooit meer kunnen beheersen, we KUNNEN controleren of we die volgende weddenschap hebben. Ik beheers mijn gedrag vandaag op een manier die me niet in staat zal stellen zelfs maar te overwegen om een gecontroleerde gokker te worden. Toen mijn gedrag veranderde, veranderde ook mijn houding ten opzichte van gokken. Allemaal te maken met het ontwikkelen van een andere mindset, denk ik. Ik ben het 100% eens met Mondo. Als we eenmaal de grens zijn gepasseerd naar het punt waar gokken ons beheerst, is er geen weg meer terug.

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Yksi asia, jonka me unohdimme ryhmässä tänä iltana, Charles on, että vaikka emme voi enää kontrolloida uhkapeliämme, voimme kuitenkin päättää, onko meillä seuraava veto. Hallitsen käyttäytymistäni tänään tavoilla, jotka eivät salli minun edes harkita yrittämistä tulla kontrolloiduksi pelaajaksi. Kun käytökseni muuttui, myös asenteeni rahapeleihin muuttui. Mielestäni kaikki liittyy erilaisen ajattelutavan kehittämiseen. Olen 100% samaa mieltä Mondon kanssa. Kun ylitämme rajan siihen pisteeseen, jossa rahapelit hallitsevat meitä, paluuta ei ole.

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Non CGs don’t get it Monique. That’s why you need Support sites and Groups likeGT and GA. My nearest and dearest enabled me to gamble. I picked the two who I knew I could manipulate and played them like a fiddle. The rest of the family didn’t want to hear any bad news I did get a few Ohs and Aws from them but they hadn’t a clue. How could they?
I blacklisted the people who were no use to me. That’s what CGs do, sadly.
CGs are also impatient.
It took us a long time to get into this mess. We need time to get out. It can be slow progress but it is better than adding to the carnage.Its twenty months since I gambled. Only now am I beginning to see some positive results but I have a long road ahead. There are no magic wands. I don’t believe God dips our nose in the mess , but I do believe if we “turn our lives over to a Higher Power” (God in my case) “and seek to do His Will”as it says in the GA Book, change will happen.
Hang in Monique.
Think of how dreadful life would be if you were still gambling.
Being G free is the best bonus you have today.

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Don’t lose hope, Maverick.
You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Never give up!
God is good.

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Compulsive gamblers never win.

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Words mean very little when our mood is low, Monique.
Sometimes we have to force ourselves to act.
I went back to work at 52 following a 19 year career break. I planned to work for a year to repay gambling debt. I won’t bore you with details, but you can guess! When this “bug” attacks you, it pulls you to a low level.
On a practical note, is it possible to move in with a family member until your housing situation is resolved?
How about Residential Treatment ? Any centres near you? Perhaps your GP could arrange an emergency admission, if you explain everything to him.
I know everything seems impossible at present.
Don’t give up hope.
Keep posting.
You are not alone.

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Tough days can be more beneficial in the long run than easy days, Monicau. If you received your benefits too easily and had your housing situation resolved without difficulty, the chances are you would continue gambling.
I gambled with “easy” money. When the tough times came I did things differently. I could not see any way out for a while and sometimes there is no exit but remember …every rock bottom has a trap door ! We can take that two ways…a trap door to a deeper hole or a trapdoor to “Narnia”.
I believe in the Land of Milk and Honey (sometimes). I KNOW that life does not exist in GAMBLEWORLD. The only thing we will find there is HELL!

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..against gambling this August, one day at a time.
Thanks Shaun for suggesting that we should keep August a G free month.
Today August 31st, I will not gamble.

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Thank you for taking the time and making an effort to post to my thread on 28th, Laura.
We take so much for granted.
I’m so sorry to hear you are in pain and still having difficulty getting around.
I just hope and pray that the results of your tests will lead to the discovery of a suitable treatment that will ease your discomfort and give you a better quality of life.
They say “health is wealth” but I think accepting long term ailments brings us a different kind of wealth. It makes us stronger in many ways and gives us an understanding of others’ suffering. People who have never been ill don’t know how to empathize. Maybe your husband will never gain that knowledge. It’s like gambling in many ways. Only other CGs “get it”! Trying to be patient with our own and others’ shortcomings is very draining. Try to break your days up into short “blocks” Laura. I read a suggestion on another thread on GT that stretching and breathing help. I agree with that. I know you are limited and need to “follow orders” but if you could plan to do 5 things each day within your scope it will keep your spirits up, instead of dwelling on things you cannot do.
The good news is that you are not into online gambling, Laura. Don’t ever give it a second thought.
On the days you don’t feel up to posting, don’t push yourself but even a couple of words now and then would be appreciated.
Always in my thoughts and prayers Laura.
Better days ahead, hopefully!

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…when you stop living a lie!
Gambling creates an illusion which absorbs the CG’s whole life . We live in a false world.
When we smash through our false belief we will wake up in the real world. It may not be a pretty place but it sure tastes better than the hell we leave behind.
I know how hard you have struggled P. We’ve been through thick and thin together.
It is only when we walk in someone else’s shoes that we feel the pinch.
You have been there for me P. You know I’m only a heartbeat away when you need a lift.
Just for today, P!
One day at a time.
Marvelous post! Nobody deserves recovery more. Very well done on ALL your G free days.

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slow down Jay
Enjoy today
In 12 weeks time we might all be washed away like the poor unfortunate people in Hueston USA.

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I don’t gamble on Wednesdays……………………………..

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