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Um ponto que perdemos no Grupo esta noite, Charles, é que embora não possamos controlar nosso jogo nunca mais, PODEMOS controlar se temos a próxima aposta. Eu controlo meu comportamento hoje de maneiras que não me permitem sequer considerar a tentativa de me tornar um jogador controlado. Quando meu comportamento mudou, minha atitude em relação ao jogo também mudou. Tudo a ver com o desenvolvimento de uma mentalidade diferente, eu acho. Eu concordo 100% com a Mondo. Uma vez que cruzamos a linha até o ponto em que o jogo nos controla, não há como voltar atrás.
एक बिंदु जो हम आज रात समूह में चूक गए, चार्ल्स यह है कि यद्यपि हम अपने जुए को फिर कभी नियंत्रित नहीं कर सकते हैं, हम यह नियंत्रित कर सकते हैं कि क्या हमारे पास वह अगला दांव है। मैं आज अपने व्यवहार को इस तरह से नियंत्रित करता हूं कि मुझे नियंत्रित जुआरी बनने के प्रयास पर विचार करने की भी अनुमति नहीं होगी। जब मेरे व्यवहार में बदलाव आया तो जुए के प्रति मेरा नजरिया भी बदल गया। मुझे लगता है कि एक अलग मानसिकता विकसित करने के साथ सब कुछ करना है। मैं मोंडो से 100% सहमत हूं। एक बार जब हम उस सीमा को पार कर जाते हैं जहां जुआ हमें नियंत्रित करता है, तो कोई पीछे नहीं हटता है।
Un punto che abbiamo perso nel gruppo stasera, Charles, è che sebbene non possiamo più controllare il nostro gioco d'azzardo, POSSIAMO controllare se abbiamo la prossima scommessa. Oggi controllo il mio comportamento in modi che non mi permetteranno nemmeno di prendere in considerazione il tentativo di diventare un giocatore d'azzardo controllato. Quando il mio comportamento è cambiato, anche il mio atteggiamento nei confronti del gioco è cambiato. Tutto ha a che fare con lo sviluppo di una mentalità diversa, credo. Sono d'accordo al 100% con Mondo. Una volta superata la linea fino al punto in cui il gioco d'azzardo ci controlla, non si torna indietro.
ایک نکتہ جو ہم نے آج رات گروپ میں کھو دیا ، چارلس یہ ہے کہ اگرچہ ہم اپنے جوئے کو دوبارہ کنٹرول نہیں کر سکتے ، ہم کنٹرول کر سکتے ہیں کہ اگلی شرط ہمارے پاس ہے یا نہیں۔ میں آج اپنے رویے کو ان طریقوں سے کنٹرول کرتا ہوں جو مجھے ایک کنٹرولڈ جواری بننے کی کوشش پر بھی غور کرنے کی اجازت نہیں دے گا۔ جب میرے رویے نے جوئے کے لیے میرا رویہ بھی تبدیل کیا۔ میرے خیال میں سب کچھ ایک مختلف ذہنیت کے ساتھ کرنا ہے۔ میں مونڈو سے 100٪ متفق ہوں۔ ایک بار جب ہم لائن عبور کر کے اس مقام پر پہنچ جاتے ہیں جہاں جوا ہمیں کنٹرول کر لیتا ہے ، پھر پیچھے نہیں ہٹنا پڑتا۔
Satu poin yang kami lewatkan di Grup malam ini, Charles adalah bahwa meskipun kami tidak dapat mengontrol perjudian kami lagi, kami BISA mengontrol apakah kami memiliki taruhan berikutnya. Saya mengendalikan perilaku saya hari ini dengan cara yang tidak memungkinkan saya untuk mempertimbangkan mencoba menjadi penjudi yang terkontrol. Ketika perilaku saya berubah, sikap saya terhadap perjudian juga berubah. Semua berkaitan dengan mengembangkan pola pikir yang berbeda, saya pikir. Saya setuju 100% dengan Mondo. Begitu kita melewati batas ke titik di mana perjudian mengendalikan kita, tidak ada jalan untuk kembali.
Non CGs don’t get it Monique. That’s why you need Support sites and Groups likeGT and GA. My nearest and dearest enabled me to gamble. I picked the two who I knew I could manipulate and played them like a fiddle. The rest of the family didn’t want to hear any bad news I did get a few Ohs and Aws from them but they hadn’t a clue. How could they?
I blacklisted the people who were no use to me. That’s what CGs do, sadly.
CGs are also impatient.
It took us a long time to get into this mess. We need time to get out. It can be slow progress but it is better than adding to the carnage.Its twenty months since I gambled. Only now am I beginning to see some positive results but I have a long road ahead. There are no magic wands. I don’t believe God dips our nose in the mess , but I do believe if we “turn our lives over to a Higher Power” (God in my case) “and seek to do His Will”as it says in the GA Book, change will happen.
Hang in Monique.
Think of how dreadful life would be if you were still gambling.
Being G free is the best bonus you have today.Don’t lose hope, Maverick.
You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Never give up!
God is good.Compulsive gamblers never win.
Words mean very little when our mood is low, Monique.
Sometimes we have to force ourselves to act.
I went back to work at 52 following a 19 year career break. I planned to work for a year to repay gambling debt. I won’t bore you with details, but you can guess! When this “bug” attacks you, it pulls you to a low level.
On a practical note, is it possible to move in with a family member until your housing situation is resolved?
How about Residential Treatment ? Any centres near you? Perhaps your GP could arrange an emergency admission, if you explain everything to him.
I know everything seems impossible at present.
Don’t give up hope.
Keep posting.
You are not alone.Tough days can be more beneficial in the long run than easy days, Monicau. If you received your benefits too easily and had your housing situation resolved without difficulty, the chances are you would continue gambling.
I gambled with “easy” money. When the tough times came I did things differently. I could not see any way out for a while and sometimes there is no exit but remember …every rock bottom has a trap door ! We can take that two ways…a trap door to a deeper hole or a trapdoor to “Narnia”.
I believe in the Land of Milk and Honey (sometimes). I KNOW that life does not exist in GAMBLEWORLD. The only thing we will find there is HELL!..against gambling this August, one day at a time.
Thanks Shaun for suggesting that we should keep August a G free month.
Today August 31st, I will not gamble.Thank you for taking the time and making an effort to post to my thread on 28th, Laura.
We take so much for granted.
I’m so sorry to hear you are in pain and still having difficulty getting around.
I just hope and pray that the results of your tests will lead to the discovery of a suitable treatment that will ease your discomfort and give you a better quality of life.
They say “health is wealth” but I think accepting long term ailments brings us a different kind of wealth. It makes us stronger in many ways and gives us an understanding of others’ suffering. People who have never been ill don’t know how to empathize. Maybe your husband will never gain that knowledge. It’s like gambling in many ways. Only other CGs “get it”! Trying to be patient with our own and others’ shortcomings is very draining. Try to break your days up into short “blocks” Laura. I read a suggestion on another thread on GT that stretching and breathing help. I agree with that. I know you are limited and need to “follow orders” but if you could plan to do 5 things each day within your scope it will keep your spirits up, instead of dwelling on things you cannot do.
The good news is that you are not into online gambling, Laura. Don’t ever give it a second thought.
On the days you don’t feel up to posting, don’t push yourself but even a couple of words now and then would be appreciated.
Always in my thoughts and prayers Laura.
Better days ahead, hopefully!…when you stop living a lie!
Gambling creates an illusion which absorbs the CG’s whole life . We live in a false world.
When we smash through our false belief we will wake up in the real world. It may not be a pretty place but it sure tastes better than the hell we leave behind.
I know how hard you have struggled P. We’ve been through thick and thin together.
It is only when we walk in someone else’s shoes that we feel the pinch.
You have been there for me P. You know I’m only a heartbeat away when you need a lift.
Just for today, P!
One day at a time.
Marvelous post! Nobody deserves recovery more. Very well done on ALL your G free days.slow down Jay
Enjoy today
In 12 weeks time we might all be washed away like the poor unfortunate people in Hueston USA.I don’t gamble on Wednesdays……………………………..