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I won’t post about medical issues here Monica Will tell you in a closed group
Somewhere in between the Stars and the Mud we find reality.
We are victims of our own actions
How about Pete. You mention him a bit.
Would he go to the cinema or for a walk with you?
Lots of free museums art galleries
Any hope you could arrange to meet a friend
Invite your mum to spend a day with you
Life doesn’t have to cost a fortune . The frugal/simple things are often more enjoyable
I understand how difficult it is to motivate yourself when you’re in a rut.The longer we stay stuck the harder it becomes to unglue ourselvesis bad for us Monica
I’m guilty of that too
Ever hear this
“Two men looked through prison bars;
One saw MUD
The other saw STARS”!Gambling imprisons us
TRUTH sets us free.I heard a member who is 30 years free say to a new member
“Give GA a try for 90 meetings; If by then , you don’t want to come back, we will shake hands and you can take back all your misery and pain”.
Do you miss the misery and pain, I-did-t or it just the gambling you miss?
Sadly, we can’t have one without the other.Yes, Monica. When I quit gambling , I also experienced a wide range of varied emotions which would fluctuate over 24 hours. I can’t say if this also occurred in my pre- gambling days.
I think emotional changes are synonymous with health patterns especially with vitamin deficiencies, allergies and Thyroid changes.
Have you had your TSH and B12s checked? I’m sure you know from your nursing background that the H-PY is related to the intrinsic factor and the malabsorption of Vit B12.
On that note, I’m off to the Health Centre now.
Long threatening comes at last! I’m falling asunder!
Gambling was a great cover for many “issues”.
I’m the worst patient imaginable! I don’t call them, they call me! How BAD is that!!!!Writing poetry is cathartic, Monica. In a way it is like giving birth. You bring out what was “locked” inside you and gaze on it in wonder. Every time you read your poem another emotion has been released and transferred to a safe place.
Do you paint, draw , play or listen to music or sing, Monica?
I do those things when I am alone.
Free expression in a safe place is very important.
The Group you described (was it an offshoot of GA?) made me feel uneasy.
Who is available when attendees leave the room having released pent up hurts and pain? Do they have a facilitator?
I’m wary of those groups.
For the record (not that it should affect gambling recovery for others) I am Catholic. In the Catholic church, there is no discrimination. Everyone is included. Remember, Jesus hates the sin but he loves the sinner. Confession plays a big part in my recovery.
The 12 Steps can be a guide to true repentance.
Repentance, as you know means change.great poem , Monica
great poem , Monica
Thanks for posting to my thread, Velvet.
The storm was bad. The whole country is in shambles. Three deaths. The Government handled it well and the Met Office gave warnings and support throughout the whole event. All schools, colleges etc were closed for two days. Buses not running so people stayed indoors which, I’m sure helped to save many lives . It will take time for services to be restored. The winds are dying down now. Power went at midday. Seemingly, it will take up to ten days to restore it fully. We are lucky . We were re connected at 6 0 clock.
I “bet” some casinos are open tonight but I won’t be there….thanks Velvet!Chasing a loss means we lose more 3raser.
Everything we chase we lose and everything we lose we chase (I think P said that first)
Every time I was given overtime at work or a bonus or back pay, I always gambled it in….. advance.
Back to the drawing board is the only place you will find solace.
You need to step up on support and somehow prevent access to money.
Maybe come to a Live Group?I don’t think people “snap out” of depression, Monica.
Finding the cause would help.
I can’t post any more …letters taking ages to appear on screen.
“Healthy body, healthy mind”
One therapy for depression is free and effective….walking.
Sorry I can’t post more.Is there any hope you might be bumped up as a priority case due to the extent of your pain, Laura?
I’m guessing you don’t have private medical cover?
My husband cancelled our Private Health Care when I was gambling. He was paying all the bills …….one thing I did when I stopped gambling, was to renew mine.
Are there any politicians in your area looking for votes ? Where I live people target those guys and often get good results.
Try every avenue Laura. Including prayer. God is good!I read in one of your posts, Monica that you lived to work. That could be an area you might address when your chest infection clears. Would you consider signing up for a couple of hours voluntary work to get you out of the rut you find yourself in at present? Each day wouldn’t be the same as the last if you had a few hours work to break the monotony.
When our children are getting on with their own lives and no longer rely on us, life can seem futile.
The time comes when we need to look at things differently. I think gambling masked a lot of issues and now that we have no crutch , we find ourselves limping along.
Lots of people my age seem to feel that being involved with grown up children and grandchildren will solve the emptiness. Maybe they are happy with that but I wonder if all our “children” actually want us involved in their lives at that level.
Mine don’t. Do yours?Thank God you made the right choice, P.
The alternative doesn’t bear thinking about.
Gambling has no power over us UNTIL we place the first bet.
It’s good to be aware that alcohol weakens the defenses.
No money=no gamble, still applies!I hear you Monica.
Life is not finished but I know how you feel.