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Do you really feel that about “F n F,” I did It??
Sounds like quite a blanket statement to me.
If it was said about “CGs”, would there be an outcry?
Generalized statements alarm me sometimes because there may not be sufficient evidence to support them.
Just sayin’!
Not judging or criticizing so no need to over react!Best of luck with your test tomorrow, Monica. I will say a prayer it goes well and that results will be favourable.
You will be like a super model after the clear out!
Job in Vogue Magazine!
Post as soon as you can.Hi K
I just read your first post here on GT.
What strikes me most is that you are living a secret life.
Looking back and listening to people speak in GA, I can certainly tell you that secrecy puts an even greater strain on a gambler than the actual gambling itself.
The saying “We are only as sick as our secrets” is very true and most applicable to a gambler.
Honesty, openness and willingness are the key to recovery.
Is there a GA Group near that you could attend? (Gamblers Anonymous). Hiding behind a screen to gamble becomes a way of life. It can go on for years without coming to the notice of our families and friends.Using a “screen” in recovery serves as a protection in the early days but it can be equally unhealthy unless we use it to bring problems into the open. In my experience, it is only when we share our secrets that the illusion crumbles.
Gambling is a great illusion. It takes us to places beyond our worst nightmares.
My guess is that your wife knows more than you realize.
If she knows the full truth she can be your greatest support.
CGs cannot handle money so perhaps handing over the funds to her care could be your first step.
I wish you all the best in recovery. You have taken the most difficult step by admitting you have a problem.
To know that we are “powerless over gambling and that our lives have become unmanageable” is crucial information. To actually admit that this statements applies to me and you is the first step in recovery.
Keep posting.How right you are, P.
The root of gambling addiction is complex.
Very intricate. We may never know why we gambled. Indeed, when I questioned my “madness” the answer was “why not?”
I thought that people who didn’t gamble weren’t living.
When we are “in the throes” we try to apply rational thought to irrational behaviour.
Now, I say “it doesn’t matter why I gambled”.
All we need to focus on TODAY, P is how to avoid the next bet.
easy when you know how and we do know how! Thank God we know how to protect ourselves from the hell that gambling will always be to every CG.
‘See you later in a group, P.
In the meantime…deep breaths. You’re doing fine. Just like me. Rolling with the punches!!Yes, Shaun There’s strength in numbers
I used to do monthly pacts a few years ago here on GT
Not everyone agreed but strangely a lot of people have vanished from the site
All cured??
I wonder?
Whatever helps us to stay “clean” should be tried, Shaun.
One day at a time.
Stay focused!….but I knew I’m wasting my time and tired brain and fingertips tapping here if I’m talking to a CG who wants to gamble.
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(Yes, Monica I spend hours dwelling on that wise quote
“Desire”, meaning “inordinate attachment” , of course!Yes it will give you relief alright
But for how long?
And what else will it give you?
Guilt?
Grief?
Regret?
Remorse?
More debt?
Panic?
Pain?
Fear?
Hangover…?
Shall I continue???
No “relief” is worth all the dire consequences.
You wont have urges if you can’t access a gambling site
You will not think of gambling unless you have access to funds
You also need time and a hide out
IF you have any of these my advice would be to get rid of them NOW
or
you might be writing
“DAY 1…Again”
“The root of all sorrow is desire;the uprooting of sorrow, is desireless-ness”!Any idea why you feel anxious and empty, I did it?
I know that feeling too.
Gambling used to cause it for me.Counselling churns up a lot of emotions, 3Racer. You need to move slowly to avoid feeling overwhelmed.
I hear you on the money issue.
For me “gambling money” was totally separate from “everyday money”. In fact the G money was only ammunition to keep the wheels turning. Not money at all really. In recovery, you will learn to look at money differently. You will see it for what it is. You will learn to look on everything differently and will learn to see and accept the “real me”!8th November
No time to gamble
No time to waste
Gambling is a waste of time
And a waste of money“the things we don’t want to hear, are usually the things we need to hear”!
I can understand your positivity , Jay and your determination, but given the wrong/right circumstance all that can change in a flash.
TODAY, I know it is very unlikely I will gamble.
Tomorrow could be totally different.
Stay focused.A very nice gesture, Monica. Will you accept the invitation?
Planning for your 60th will be good motivation to stay “clean”.
Can be a cause of anxiety too, of course.It’s a great sign of recovery that you are posting, Laura, but don’t over do it. If you’re anything like me you can be an “all or nothing person”.
At present I’m at the “nothing” stage!
Thanks for posting to my thread.Putting time between the thought and the action helps.
It does mean a change in mindset.
Of course it’s your money, I did It
but
only until the fatcats get their greedy paws on it
I wouldn’t please them to give them another shilling.
I love it that they are “starving”!!!!