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Kendini toparladığını gördüğüme sevindim, Lizbeth. Kendimizi incindiğimizde, genellikle başkalarını suçlarız. Siz onlara bu gücü vermedikçe hiç kimse sizi mutsuz (ya da mutlu da!) edecek güce sahip değildir. Toplumumuzda erken yaşlardan itibaren tam tersine inanmaya şartlandırılmışız. İncindiğimde, incinme bendedir, Lizbeth. Diğer kişide değil. Bunu uzun zaman önce öğrendim. Bunu uygulamaya koymak bilgelik ister. Bunu anladığınızda, kalbiniz şefkatle dolacak ve HAZIR olacaksınız! Her zaman dualarımdasın Lizbeth. Gücümüzü geri kazanmamız gerekiyor. Bu çoğu zaman bırakmak anlamına gelir.

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Jsem rád, že se odrážíš, Lizbeth. Když se cítíme zraněni, často obviňujeme ostatní. Nikdo nemá sílu, aby vás učinil nešťastným (nebo šťastným!), Pokud mu tuto sílu nedáte. Jsme podmíněni věřit opaku od raného věku v naší společnosti. Když se cítím zraněný, zranění je ve mně, Lizbeth. Ne v druhé osobě. To jsem se naučil už dávno. K uvedení do praxe je zapotřebí moudrosti. Když to pochopíte, vaše srdce bude naplněno soucitem a budete ZDARMA! Vždycky jsi v mých modlitbách, Lizbeth. Musíme získat zpět svoji sílu. To často znamená nechat jít.

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Džiaugiuosi matydamas, kaip tu atsigauni, Lizbet. Kai jaučiamės įskaudinti, dažnai kaltiname kitus. Niekas neturi galios padaryti jus nelaimingu (ar laimingu!), Nebent jūs jiems suteiksite tokią galią. Mūsų visuomenėje nuo mažens esame įtikinti tikėti priešingai. Kai jaučiuosi įskaudinta, skauda yra manyje, Lizbeth. Ne kitame žmoguje. Aš tai sužinojau seniai. Norint tai įgyvendinti, reikia išminties. Kai tai suprasi, tavo širdis bus pripildyta užuojautos ir būsi NEMOKAMAS! Lizbeta, tu visada esi mano maldose. Turime susigrąžinti savo galią. Tai dažnai reiškia paleisti.

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Ik ben blij om te zien dat je terugkaatst, Lizbeth. Als we ons gekwetst voelen, geven we vaak anderen de schuld. Niemand heeft de macht om je ongelukkig (of gelukkig) te maken, tenzij je ze die macht geeft. We zijn van jongs af aan in onze samenleving geconditioneerd om het tegenovergestelde te geloven. Als ik me gekwetst voel, zit de pijn in mij, Lizbeth. Niet in de andere persoon. Dat heb ik lang geleden geleerd. Er is wijsheid voor nodig om het in de praktijk te brengen. Als je dat begrijpt, zal je hart gevuld zijn met mededogen en ben je VRIJ! Je bent altijd in mijn gebeden, Lizbeth. We moeten onze macht terugwinnen. Dat betekent vaak loslaten.

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Es priecājos redzēt, ka tu atlec, Lizbeta. Kad jūtamies ievainoti, mēs bieži vainojam citus. Nevienam nav spēka padarīt jūs nelaimīgu (vai laimīgu!), Ja vien jūs viņiem nedodat šo varu. Mūsu sabiedrībā jau no agras bērnības esam nosacīti uzskatīt pretējo. Kad es jūtos ievainots, sāpes ir manī, Lizbeta. Ne otrā cilvēkā. Es to uzzināju jau sen. Lai to īstenotu praksē, nepieciešama gudrība. Kad tu to sapratīsi, tava sirds būs līdzjūtības pilna un tu būsi BEZMAKSAS! Lizbeta, tu vienmēr esi manās lūgšanās. Mums ir jāatgūst spēks. Tas bieži nozīmē atlaist.

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Jeg er glad for å se at du hopper tilbake, Lizbeth. Når vi føler oss såret, klandrer vi ofte andre. Ingen har makt til å gjøre deg ulykkelig (eller glad, heller!) Med mindre du gir dem den makten. Vi er betinget av å tro det motsatte fra en tidlig alder i vårt samfunn. Når jeg føler meg såret, er det vondt i meg, Lizbeth. Ikke i den andre personen. Det lærte jeg for lenge siden. Det krever visdom å sette det ut i livet. Når du forstår det, vil hjertet ditt bli fylt av medfølelse, og du vil være GRATIS! Du er alltid i mine bønner, Lizbeth. Vi må gjenvinne vår makt. Det betyr ofte å gi slipp.

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Радвам се да видя, че отскачаш, Лизбет. Когато се чувстваме наранени, често обвиняваме другите. Никой няма силата да те направи нещастен (или щастлив!), Освен ако не му дадеш тази сила. Ние сме обусловени да вярваме обратното от най -ранна възраст в нашето общество. Когато се чувствам наранена, нараняването е в мен, Лизбет. Не в другия човек. Научих това отдавна. Нужна е мъдрост, за да се приложи на практика. Когато разберете това, сърцето ви ще бъде изпълнено със състрадание и ще бъдете СВОБОДНИ! Винаги си в моите молитви, Лизбет. Трябва да си върнем силата. Това често означава да се откажете.

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Fico feliz em ver que você está se recuperando, Lizbeth. Quando nos sentimos magoados, muitas vezes culpamos os outros. Ninguém tem o poder de fazer você infeliz (ou feliz, também!) A menos que você dê esse poder a eles. Somos condicionados a acreditar no oposto desde cedo em nossa sociedade. Quando me sinto magoada, a dor está em mim, Lizbeth. Não na outra pessoa. Aprendi isso há muito tempo. É preciso sabedoria para colocá-lo em prática. Quando você entender isso, seu coração se encherá de compaixão e você estará LIVRE! Você está sempre em minhas orações, Lizbeth. Precisamos recuperar nosso poder. Isso geralmente significa deixar ir.

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Mă bucur să văd că revii, Lizbeth. Când ne simțim răniți, dăm vina pe alții. Nimeni nu are puterea de a te face nefericit (sau fericit, niciodată) dacă nu le dai puterea respectivă. Suntem condiționați să credem contrariul de la o vârstă fragedă în societatea noastră. Când mă simt rănit, răul este în mine, Lizbeth. Nu la cealaltă persoană. Am aflat asta cu mult timp în urmă. Este nevoie de înțelepciune pentru a o pune în practică. Când vei înțelege asta, inima ta va fi plină de compasiune și vei fi LIBER! Ești mereu în rugăciunile mele, Lizbeth. Trebuie să ne revendicăm puterea. Asta înseamnă adesea să renunți.

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No, Laura. You certainly didn’t hurt me in any way.
I don’t think you have a malicious bone in your body. I hold you in high esteem.
I have come to a stage in Life, Laura where nobody has the power to hurt me. In the same way, nobody has the power to inflate my feelings.
I don’t rely on feelings alone. I resort to sound judgement and will before I act/react..
There is far more to each of us than what is portrayed here in an online forum.
I make allowances for the shortcomings of others.Nobody can read beyond the written word to judge the mood/ environment/circumstances of the writer. It is very easy to hide behind a laptop.
I have far bigger fish to fry these days rather than reacting in a knee jerk fashion!
No hard feelings at all, Laura.

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Thanks for your post Laura
Yes , having a sound core group is essential for the success of GA. A women’s group started up last winter. It fell through after about two months due to a weak core among other things.
Regular turn over of new members is important too.
I hope you get to drop in to your group sometime. I’m sure they would love to see you.
Do you think it would have prevented your relapse if you had been still attending meetings?

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Thanks for your comment on my Thread, Cathy which incidentally, I’m not using at present.
I have no need the “defend” GA.
The evidence that it works for thousands of men and women world wide speaks volumes.
It is based on ancient spiritual Principles .
These never change, and can be adapted to believers and non believers alike.
What are they?
Truth.
Honesty
Humility
Faith
Hope
and of course Charity.
Opinions change. New ideologies come and go. People change. Others never change.
GA is a unity programme. A Fellowship of men and women trying to put their lives in order by admitting powerlessness over gambling.
Nobody is perfect in the groups. All equal. No pecking order.
GA is not for everyone, certainly not for anyone who denies or rejects the aforementioned FACTS!
I have no idea how it works. I surrendered and stopped analyzing.
All I do know is I have not gambled since I attended meetings with an open mind since January 5th 2016.
Last bet- December 28th 2015.
I hope your son is thriving in recovery one day at a time, Cathy.

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How are you today, Monica?
Just touching base to let you know I’m thinking of you.

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Good luck with your banking business, Laura.
It’s great to know you don’t HAVE to have the money.
I know that “nerved up” feeling very well. I still get it at the checkout sometimes, wondering will I have enough in my account to pay for groceries, but it’s a different feeling then acting like a fake.
I think that’s what got me in the end.
Having to live a fake life.
Fooling everyone including myself.
In the end the banks refused to lend me money. I had used my husband’s and sons credit union shares plus my own of course to borrow. I recall strolling through the doors nonchalantly, asking “Is the loan approved”. Nobody knew that my sanity was hanging on the answer . Such stress !
Then when I was maxed out on licit loans, I used the high interest “no questions asked” companies . For what? Christmas presents I would tell myself, but time and time again my money was passed on to fatcats for their Christmas gifts and two weeks before Christmas, I would be grovelling again looking for another loan.
What a fake life!
Not today, Laura. Thank God!
Not this Christmas!
Thanks for reminding me of the difference between now and then.

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Monica, the group I suggested offer practical advice and point clients in the direction of other services, as well as offering financial aid.
Its not a hand -out. It is given voluntarily , often by people who suffered a “dip” , like you are experiencing at present and when times improve these people subscribe to what I think is a social justice cause. Any organisation that fights poverty for the right reason , has my admiration.Of course it is difficult to be on the receiving end but when the table turns you can become a benefactor.
“Never look a gift horse in the mouth”
It could point you in the right direction. Even having a fresh person to chat with might lead you towards a new start.
You are in my thoughts and prayers

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