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Örülök, hogy látod, hogy visszapattansz, Lizbeth. Amikor fájdalmat érezünk, gyakran hibáztatunk másokat. Senkinek nincs hatalma boldogtalanná tenni (vagy boldoggá tenni!), Hacsak nem adja meg neki ezt a hatalmat. Társadalmunkban kora gyermekkorától fogva feltételezzük az ellenkezőjét. Amikor fájdalmat érzek, a fájdalom bennem van, Lizbeth. A másik személyben nem. Ezt már régen megtanultam. Bölcsesség kell a gyakorlatba való átültetéséhez. Amikor ezt megérted, szíved tele lesz együttérzéssel, és INGYEN leszel! Mindig az imáimban vagy, Lizbeth. Vissza kell szereznünk hatalmunkat. Ez sokszor elengedést jelent.

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Me alegra ver que te estás recuperando, Lizbeth. Cuando nos sentimos heridos, a menudo culpamos a los demás. Nadie tiene el poder de hacerte infeliz (¡o feliz tampoco!) A menos que le des ese poder. Estamos condicionados a creer lo contrario desde una edad temprana en nuestra sociedad. Cuando me siento herido, el dolor está en mí, Lizbeth. No en la otra persona. Eso lo aprendí hace mucho tiempo. Se necesita sabiduría para ponerlo en práctica. ¡Cuando entiendas eso, tu corazón se llenará de compasión y serás LIBRE! Siempre estás en mis oraciones, Lizbeth. Necesitamos recuperar nuestro poder. Eso a menudo significa dejarlo ir.

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Cieszę się, że wracasz, Lizbeth. Kiedy czujemy się zranieni, często obwiniamy innych. Nikt nie ma mocy, by uczynić cię nieszczęśliwym (albo szczęśliwym!), chyba że dasz mu tę moc. Jesteśmy uwarunkowani, by wierzyć w coś przeciwnego od najmłodszych lat w naszym społeczeństwie. Kiedy czuję się zraniony, ból jest we mnie, Lizbeth. Nie w drugiej osobie. Nauczyłem się tego dawno temu. Aby wprowadzić to w życie, potrzeba mądrości. Kiedy to zrozumiesz, twoje serce napełni się współczuciem i będziesz WOLNY! Zawsze jesteś w moich modlitwach, Lizbeth. Musimy odzyskać naszą moc. To często oznacza odpuszczenie.

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Χαίρομαι που σε βλέπω να επιστρέφεις, Λίζμπεθ. Όταν νιώθουμε πληγωμένοι, συχνά κατηγορούμε τους άλλους. Κανείς δεν έχει τη δύναμη να σας κάνει δυστυχισμένους (ή ευτυχισμένους, είτε!) Αν δεν του δώσετε αυτή τη δύναμη. Έχουμε την προϋπόθεση να πιστεύουμε το αντίθετο από μικρή ηλικία στην κοινωνία μας. Όταν νιώθω πληγωμένος, ο πόνος είναι μέσα μου, Λίζμπεθ. Όχι στο άλλο άτομο. Το έμαθα εδώ και πολύ καιρό. Χρειάζεται σοφία για να το κάνεις πράξη. Όταν το καταλάβετε, η καρδιά σας θα γεμίσει με συμπόνια και θα είστε ΕΛΕΥΘΕΡΟΙ! Είσαι πάντα στις προσευχές μου, Λίζμπεθ. Πρέπει να ανακτήσουμε τη δύναμή μας. Αυτό συχνά σημαίνει να το αφήσεις.

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Kendini toparladığını gördüğüme sevindim, Lizbeth. Kendimizi incindiğimizde, genellikle başkalarını suçlarız. Siz onlara bu gücü vermedikçe hiç kimse sizi mutsuz (ya da mutlu da!) edecek güce sahip değildir. Toplumumuzda erken yaşlardan itibaren tam tersine inanmaya şartlandırılmışız. İncindiğimde, incinme bendedir, Lizbeth. Diğer kişide değil. Bunu uzun zaman önce öğrendim. Bunu uygulamaya koymak bilgelik ister. Bunu anladığınızda, kalbiniz şefkatle dolacak ve HAZIR olacaksınız! Her zaman dualarımdasın Lizbeth. Gücümüzü geri kazanmamız gerekiyor. Bu çoğu zaman bırakmak anlamına gelir.

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Jsem rád, že se odrážíš, Lizbeth. Když se cítíme zraněni, často obviňujeme ostatní. Nikdo nemá sílu, aby vás učinil nešťastným (nebo šťastným!), Pokud mu tuto sílu nedáte. Jsme podmíněni věřit opaku od raného věku v naší společnosti. Když se cítím zraněný, zranění je ve mně, Lizbeth. Ne v druhé osobě. To jsem se naučil už dávno. K uvedení do praxe je zapotřebí moudrosti. Když to pochopíte, vaše srdce bude naplněno soucitem a budete ZDARMA! Vždycky jsi v mých modlitbách, Lizbeth. Musíme získat zpět svoji sílu. To často znamená nechat jít.

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Džiaugiuosi matydamas, kaip tu atsigauni, Lizbet. Kai jaučiamės įskaudinti, dažnai kaltiname kitus. Niekas neturi galios padaryti jus nelaimingu (ar laimingu!), Nebent jūs jiems suteiksite tokią galią. Mūsų visuomenėje nuo mažens esame įtikinti tikėti priešingai. Kai jaučiuosi įskaudinta, skauda yra manyje, Lizbeth. Ne kitame žmoguje. Aš tai sužinojau seniai. Norint tai įgyvendinti, reikia išminties. Kai tai suprasi, tavo širdis bus pripildyta užuojautos ir būsi NEMOKAMAS! Lizbeta, tu visada esi mano maldose. Turime susigrąžinti savo galią. Tai dažnai reiškia paleisti.

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Ik ben blij om te zien dat je terugkaatst, Lizbeth. Als we ons gekwetst voelen, geven we vaak anderen de schuld. Niemand heeft de macht om je ongelukkig (of gelukkig) te maken, tenzij je ze die macht geeft. We zijn van jongs af aan in onze samenleving geconditioneerd om het tegenovergestelde te geloven. Als ik me gekwetst voel, zit de pijn in mij, Lizbeth. Niet in de andere persoon. Dat heb ik lang geleden geleerd. Er is wijsheid voor nodig om het in de praktijk te brengen. Als je dat begrijpt, zal je hart gevuld zijn met mededogen en ben je VRIJ! Je bent altijd in mijn gebeden, Lizbeth. We moeten onze macht terugwinnen. Dat betekent vaak loslaten.

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Es priecājos redzēt, ka tu atlec, Lizbeta. Kad jūtamies ievainoti, mēs bieži vainojam citus. Nevienam nav spēka padarīt jūs nelaimīgu (vai laimīgu!), Ja vien jūs viņiem nedodat šo varu. Mūsu sabiedrībā jau no agras bērnības esam nosacīti uzskatīt pretējo. Kad es jūtos ievainots, sāpes ir manī, Lizbeta. Ne otrā cilvēkā. Es to uzzināju jau sen. Lai to īstenotu praksē, nepieciešama gudrība. Kad tu to sapratīsi, tava sirds būs līdzjūtības pilna un tu būsi BEZMAKSAS! Lizbeta, tu vienmēr esi manās lūgšanās. Mums ir jāatgūst spēks. Tas bieži nozīmē atlaist.

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No, Laura. You certainly didn’t hurt me in any way.
I don’t think you have a malicious bone in your body. I hold you in high esteem.
I have come to a stage in Life, Laura where nobody has the power to hurt me. In the same way, nobody has the power to inflate my feelings.
I don’t rely on feelings alone. I resort to sound judgement and will before I act/react..
There is far more to each of us than what is portrayed here in an online forum.
I make allowances for the shortcomings of others.Nobody can read beyond the written word to judge the mood/ environment/circumstances of the writer. It is very easy to hide behind a laptop.
I have far bigger fish to fry these days rather than reacting in a knee jerk fashion!
No hard feelings at all, Laura.

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Thanks for your post Laura
Yes , having a sound core group is essential for the success of GA. A women’s group started up last winter. It fell through after about two months due to a weak core among other things.
Regular turn over of new members is important too.
I hope you get to drop in to your group sometime. I’m sure they would love to see you.
Do you think it would have prevented your relapse if you had been still attending meetings?

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Thanks for your comment on my Thread, Cathy which incidentally, I’m not using at present.
I have no need the “defend” GA.
The evidence that it works for thousands of men and women world wide speaks volumes.
It is based on ancient spiritual Principles .
These never change, and can be adapted to believers and non believers alike.
What are they?
Truth.
Honesty
Humility
Faith
Hope
and of course Charity.
Opinions change. New ideologies come and go. People change. Others never change.
GA is a unity programme. A Fellowship of men and women trying to put their lives in order by admitting powerlessness over gambling.
Nobody is perfect in the groups. All equal. No pecking order.
GA is not for everyone, certainly not for anyone who denies or rejects the aforementioned FACTS!
I have no idea how it works. I surrendered and stopped analyzing.
All I do know is I have not gambled since I attended meetings with an open mind since January 5th 2016.
Last bet- December 28th 2015.
I hope your son is thriving in recovery one day at a time, Cathy.

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How are you today, Monica?
Just touching base to let you know I’m thinking of you.

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Good luck with your banking business, Laura.
It’s great to know you don’t HAVE to have the money.
I know that “nerved up” feeling very well. I still get it at the checkout sometimes, wondering will I have enough in my account to pay for groceries, but it’s a different feeling then acting like a fake.
I think that’s what got me in the end.
Having to live a fake life.
Fooling everyone including myself.
In the end the banks refused to lend me money. I had used my husband’s and sons credit union shares plus my own of course to borrow. I recall strolling through the doors nonchalantly, asking “Is the loan approved”. Nobody knew that my sanity was hanging on the answer . Such stress !
Then when I was maxed out on licit loans, I used the high interest “no questions asked” companies . For what? Christmas presents I would tell myself, but time and time again my money was passed on to fatcats for their Christmas gifts and two weeks before Christmas, I would be grovelling again looking for another loan.
What a fake life!
Not today, Laura. Thank God!
Not this Christmas!
Thanks for reminding me of the difference between now and then.

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Monica, the group I suggested offer practical advice and point clients in the direction of other services, as well as offering financial aid.
Its not a hand -out. It is given voluntarily , often by people who suffered a “dip” , like you are experiencing at present and when times improve these people subscribe to what I think is a social justice cause. Any organisation that fights poverty for the right reason , has my admiration.Of course it is difficult to be on the receiving end but when the table turns you can become a benefactor.
“Never look a gift horse in the mouth”
It could point you in the right direction. Even having a fresh person to chat with might lead you towards a new start.
You are in my thoughts and prayers

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