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Would the Insurance Company cover hotel expenses, Lizbeth?
I know some people who had household damage and they were housed in hotels, while the repair work was being carried out.Any relief from the “condition”, Monica?
Whatever caused it, Monica, you now need a CURE. Can you get your hands on an antibiotic? Otherwise you will have to have it drained.
An even bigger “ouch”!!
3 hot baths a day was the old cure. Tea Tree Oil is good too.
‘Hope you get relief!Try a hot bath with Epsom Salts added, Monica…
Lizbeth, I am glad you sound more upbeat in your last few posts.
It takes time to repair the damage on every level.
I went back to GA on Thursday night. It felt surreal. I don’t think I belong there anymore but I must say some of the men gave me a great “welcome back”.
It takes a long time to stop feeling like a total fake.
Last night I dreamt I was gambling. The identical dream I always have when I quit. Entering an unfamiliar casino. More like an arcade. Searching for “my type” of machine but none available. Then walking out, feeling “this is not for me”!
I’m glad it was only a dream.
Gambling is a nightmare.
You will be fine, Lizbeth. I feel you are bouncing back already.Congrats on your new job, Monica. You seem to have great energy. I couldn’t even consider planning a workday. I guess I burned myself out doing 12 hour shifts. Seems like a different life now…
I-did-it, all I can say is “I know the feeling! Why oh, why do we torture ourselves?
Ok , Lizbeth. Things are getting serious.
Here is my suggestion.
Get an experienced GA member to accompany you tothe nearest Citizen Advice Bureau. Apply for Free Legal Aid. Tell the lawyer that you have a gambling problem. He will negotiate with your creditors and speak for you in court.
I have heard lots of GA members share similar “Court” stories. It always worked out well in the end.
This could be a landmark for you , Lizbeth.
The U turn you have been waiting for.
It’s not the end of the world.
GET HELP TODAY!I can relate to your sadness, Lizbeth.
It doesn’t seem like you to be so “down”.
Don’t forget that the Samaritans are on the other end of the phone, 24/7.
Time heals, Lizbeth.
Give yourself time. Talk to your doctor if this feeling doesn’t pass.
I will keep you in my prayers.
Gambling is a progressive disease. After every blow out, I told my self “it could be worse/ It’s only money” and I licked my wounds and moved on. Believe me, BBB, for as long as we gloss over our actions or divert from our gambling by consoling ourselves with co-incidental “perks”, all we are really doing is justifying our actions until the time comes when we will be desensitized to he point of numbness.
Engage the brakes before the “vehicle” shoots out of control.
Well done on your honesty and perseverance!
and try to keep a cool head, Lizbeth. It’s a bad idea to made ANY decision when you are under such severe stress. I was in a similar situation in March 2015, when a member here advised me to “make a plan”. The plan was fruitful. A small amount in a “touch -me-not ” Savings account built up gradually…it saved me…taught me to be patient…then last April I screwed up AGAIN, but thank God, that fund is still intact. I travelled a long journey today and had Confession with an Italian priest. He told me “forget about the money you lost-you may have lost the battle but you can win the war”. Words from God, Lizbeth. I am passing them on to you. Be patient. Do nothing until your head is clear. Just breath and walk and pray. God is good!
…is very easy to say for those who have never had children.
For a mother (‘can’t speak for fathers) our children will always be our children. Even when we no longer hold them by the hand , we hold them in our heart. I guess this extends to grandchildren too. I have none.
My take on this feeling of abandonment, Betti, is that part of the Life goes out of a mother when our children make the wrong moves in life . ( I believe in Right and Wrong and I have seen sons/daughter in their 40s asking mothers ” why didn’t you warn me that I was making a mistake!?”) When we become overwhelmed with concern, knowing we have no control over situations, we do two things -we look for an injection of “life”and we try to re gain control.
Gambling, for a CG provides a sick outlet for both.
The only problem is, in choosing “Life” we get “Death”!!
We need to reset out Thinking Process!Every CG has another gamble in him/her but not all have another recovery in them.
The lies and stress are worse than the actual gambling, Laura.
Believe me, each relapse is worse than the last one.Don’t go there!!I hear you Monica.
I cleared an attic full of “clutter” two years ago. Lots of memories and lots of unworn clothes with labels “for when I lose two stone”.
Forty years of forgotten items.
I sold a lot online and kept a few “treasures”.
Clearing clutter is cathartic.
I need to clear five wardrobes next.Hello Bettie,
It’s a long time since you posted and I can understand that.
Having your daughter and grandson living with you must be a big upheaval plus the added concern about Jen’s health.
Our children will always be our children, no matter what age they are. Grandchildren bring great joy but also great worry. I am projecting here and basing my comment on the experience of friends who have grandchildren in “irregular situations”. I have yet to come across a family who is not dysfunctional.
Add gambling to the mix and everything goes up in flames.
Look after yourself Bettie.
We only get one run at Life! I guess gambling teaches us to roll with the punches!
Keep bouncing back!