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Same headache here, Jen. I just isolate and stay away from everyone when I’m unwell. I’m becoming a recluse but I quite like that lifestyle. The feelings we get after succumbing to the temptation to gamble are far worse than any headache.

The longer we stay out of the game, the easier it gets to say No. I have a lot on my mind that a trip to the casino would help to blank out for a few hours but the thought of facing the hangover is enough to keep me grounded. If we drink from the poison chalice, we will always suffer the horrible consequences.

Stay focused!

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It seems as if you are working too hard for too little pay, Sherrie. I’m so sorry that some FATCAT will be lining his pockets with your money. I fed those money grabbers for years but not today…
A few years ago , when I was on a very decent salary, 85% went towards payment of gambling debt.
The thoughts that drove me to gambling were as follows ” I might as well be gambling because I’m working for nothing”
or “I might as well be hung for a sheep as a lamb”.
I realize, as you rightly point out,that I really cannot be trusted with money either. Apart from gambling, I can be very frugal at times but if I start spending (say at times like Christmas), I can lose the run of things very easily.
Also if I know there is a long wait until payday (like this month) I can get very panicky and start believing that “one good win” can sort it all out. The thing is I have had several “good wins” many times and they only led me to the next need to “sort it all out”!
This week/month/year has been G free for me, thank God. I also have to take some credit for it (God won’t stop us directly). At the start of the month I told my husband he would be coming shopping with me. He moans and groans which is a great excuse to make a detour to the casino on shopping trips ( one hour in the shops-ten hours in the slots)
We had 4 shopping trips. I had to buy 2 New Baby presents . I got him to check the prices . (His attitude is “if you want it buy it ; to hell with the price”) but after a few dirty looks and non contact kick in the shins, he agreed to buy the items with 50% off rather than the first thing that came to hand. ‘Hard on him, because I love buying baby clothes and would spent all day in the shops. The other two trips were for groceries. “Spend 50 , get 10 off” also drives him crazy because I add up the exact amount in my head to make sure I avail of that precious ten quid voucher…
Compare this frugality to our gambling spends, Sherrie.
We can be like different people on a different planet.
Don’t expect your husband to comprehend all this mind boggling dollop.
Just get him to be with you when you spend. Show him the receipts. Let him handle the money It will make you richer, it will still be YOUR money and you won’t have half as many temptations to gamble, knowing it isn’t possible.
Start again, Sherrie.
You are not alone.

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Our Higher Power never moves, Lizbeth.
We are the ones who disappear.
I hear you about family members making comments about money to make you feel inferior. I have a sister who knows I have gambling debt. Whenever I get something new she says “It’s easily known who is loaded”! I just ignore her comments but I have been know to put her in her box in the past.
I also get what you say about members coming on here “devastated “after a big loss. Next post they are living a high life and everything is rosy.
I can only think of two ways that can happen
1. the loss was exaggerated (don’t know why someone would lie about a loss)
2. They have access to hidden funds, possibly in the form of topping up loans.
Either way it’s not our problem.
Some people can deal with problems by denying them, like your unfortunate friend whose husband is ill.
I would advise you to give her a wide berth.
You could easily get sucked into her problems. It happened me often in the past. Picking up other people’s emotions and ending up gambling to escape.
Crazy but true.
Trust your own judgement, Lizbeth. You have great strength.
Far more than you realize.
Gambling drags us down and convinces us that we are worthless.
Don’t believe that lie!
I pray for you every day.
Take care.

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Our Higher Power never moves, Lizbeth.
We are the ones who disappear.
I hear you about family members making comments about money to make you feel inferior. I have a sister who knows I have gambling debt. Whenever I get something new she says “It’s easily known who is loaded”! I just ignore her comments but I have been know to put her in her box in the past.
I also get what you say about members coming on here “devastated “after a big loss. Next post they are living a high life and everything is rosy.
I can only think of two ways that can happen
1. the loss was exaggerated (don’t know why someone would lie about a loss)
2. They have access to hidden funds, possibly in the form of topping up loans.
Either way it’s not our problem.
Some people can deal with problems by denying them, like your unfortunate friend whose husband is ill.
I would advise you to give her a wide berth.
You could easily get sucked into her problems. It happened me often in the past. Picking up other people’s emotions and ending up gambling to escape.
Crazy but true.
Trust your own judgement, Lizbeth. You have great strength.
Far more than you realize.
Gambling drags us down and convinces us that we are worthless.
Don’t believe that lie!
I pray for you every day.
Take care.

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Aandringen zullen je geen pijn doen, Murrs. Gokken zal. Wacht gewoon je tijd af en blijf uit de buurt van andere gokkers totdat je je sterker voelt.

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Urges won’t hurt you, Murrs.
Gambling will.
Just bide your time and stay away from other gamblers until you feel stronger.

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Поривите няма да ви навредят, Мърс. Хазартът ще. Просто отделете време и стойте далеч от други комарджии, докато не се почувствате по -силни.

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Good to meet you in the chat earlier, T.

Surrendering control of finances is a huge step for a CG.
I believe gambling has a lot to do with control.
It is a complex issue.
One of the slogans in GA says
KEEP IT SIMPLE.
I think we need to step back and look at life differently.
The chaos and turmoil we created by gambling affects our relationships to a point where nobody knows who we are-especially ourselves!
One day at a time, we will begin to live again, to feel our emotions and to let go of the past.
Just for today ,let’s keep it simple!

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if we didn’t laugh we would cry, Jen…

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Life can be a struggle, Lizbeth.
It will never be a Rose Garden.
Every member here chose gambling as a means of escape.
It didn’t work for any of us.
Just caused further misery.
Just for today DO NOT GAMBLE.

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Yes, Nick ,it is very frustrating when nobody listens. Not only in GT but across the whole spectrum of life. Life has changed. We have become selfish. People seem very involved in their own “buzz” and other people’s problems go unnoticed. Perhaps that’s why the Bible says “Put not your trust in princes or mere man”!
Alcohol won’t undo your gambling loss either, Nick.
The more we gamble, the more we withdraw from Life. The more we withdraw, the less likely it will be for Life to come looking for us.
We are not alone, Nick but we are on our own when it comes to recovery.
Nobody can take a step for us.
Others can only walk with us.
Only God Himself will carry you.

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Hanya untuk hari ini Minggu ini, tahun ini saya tidak akan memiliki dorongan Saya tidak akan memiliki rasa takut Saya tidak akan memiliki kesempatan Untuk bermain slot Tidak ada ketakutan bahwa saya akan kehilangan banyak Namun malam ini tindakan saya bisa saja sama Seperti perjalanan Minggu malam baru-baru ini . ketika saya pulang, menggunakan jalan memutar, rute yang berbeda Merencanakan kebohongan dan "bermain manis" Beberapa jam kesenangan tersembunyi yang dicuri Setelah mengantar putra saya kembali ke honeybun-nya Tamasya yang secara bertahap menjadi kebiasaan Sekali melihat dompet saya dan cepat ambil "Sampai jumpa" ke hubby- Untuk membuat segalanya terlihat normal Berlari melewati lalu lintas tetapi tidak terlalu informal Dalam bentuk CG yang sebenarnya membuat penurunan kota cepat Geser ke kursi kasino dan gagal Tidak ada yang perlu tahu Ini hanya untuk bersenang-senang. .. Sampai dompet itu kosong dan saya kehabisan uang… Dan ATM memberi tahu saya tidak ada lagi dana yang tersedia Sampai saya tidak punya apa-apa lagi yang bisa dijual ***************** ******** Itu tahun lalu meskipun Hal-hal yang berbeda malam ini- Berbeda minggu ini, 'cos pola pikir saya benar. Saya tidak berniat kehilangan gaji seminggu lagi Saya sudah melakukannya terlalu sering Saya melakukannya dengan sangat cepat Meskipun puisi di atas saya tahu itu semua sudah lewat ***************** ************* "Jangan terlalu sombong" Beberapa orang mungkin mengatakan "Jika diberi kesempatan, Anda akan menemukan waktu untuk 'bermain'. Ada dua hal yang menghentikan saya di 2019 Hal yang saya tahu di masa lalu membuat saya tetap BERSIH Saya berniat untuk menerapkannya, apa pun yang terjadi — "Jangan bawa uang dan kembali ke GA."

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Só por hoje Esta semana, este ano não terei nenhuma necessidade Não terei nenhum medo Não terei chance de jogar no caça-níqueis Sem medo de perder o lote Ainda esta noite minhas ações poderiam ter sido as mesmas Como recente viagem à noite de domingo . quando cheguei em casa, usando um desvio, uma rota diferente Tendo planejado uma mentira e "jogue bonitinho" Algumas horas roubadas de diversão escondida Depois de deixar meu filho de volta em seu honeybun Um passeio que gradualmente se tornou um hábito Uma olhada na minha bolsa e rapidamente agarre-o "Vejo você mais tarde" para o marido- Para fazer as coisas parecerem normais Uma corrida pelo trânsito, mas não muito informal Na verdadeira forma de CG, faça uma rápida queda na cidade Deslize para uma cadeira de cassino e fracasse Ninguém precisa saber É apenas para se divertir. .. Até que a bolsa esvazie e eu estou sem dinheiro … E o caixa eletrônico me diz que não há mais fundos disponíveis Até que eu fique sem mais nada vendável ****************** ******** Isso foi no ano passado, embora as coisas estejam diferentes esta noite- Diferentes esta semana, porque minha mentalidade está certa. Não tenho intenção de perder outra semana de pagamento. Já fiz isso com muita frequência. Fiz tão rápido Apesar do poema acima, sei que já passou ***************** ************* "Não fique muito convencido" Algumas pessoas podem dizer "Dada a oportunidade, você encontrará tempo para 'brincar'. Há duas coisas que me impedem em 2019 Coisas que eu saber que no passado me manteve LIMPO Eu pretendo aplicá-los, aconteça o que acontecer — "Não carregue dinheiro e volte para a GA."

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Alleen voor vandaag Deze week, dit jaar zal ik geen drang hebben Ik zal geen angst hebben Ik zal geen kans hebben Om de gokkast te spelen Geen angst dat ik het lot zal verliezen Maar vanavond hadden mijn acties precies hetzelfde kunnen zijn Als een recente reis op zondagavond . toen ik thuiskwam, via een omweg, een andere route Ik had een leugen gepland en "speel het schattig" Een paar gestolen uren verborgen plezier Nadat ik mijn zoon terug in zijn honingrat had gezet Een uitje dat geleidelijk een gewoonte was geworden Een blik op mijn portemonnee en pak het snel "Tot ziens" voor manlief- Om de dingen er normaal uit te laten zien Een streepje door het verkeer maar niet te informeel In echte CG-vorm maak je een snelle stadsuitval Glij in een casinostoel en flop Niemand hoeft het te weten Het is alleen voor de lol. .. Totdat die portemonnee leeg raakt en ik geen geld meer heb… En de geldautomaat zegt me dat er geen geld meer beschikbaar is Totdat ik niets anders meer verkoopbaars heb ******************** ******* Dat was vorig jaar, hoewel de dingen vanavond anders zijn. Deze week anders, want mijn manier van denken is juist. Ik ben niet van plan nog een weekloon te verliezen Ik heb het te vaak gedaan Ik heb het zo snel gedaan Ondanks het bovenstaande gedicht weet ik dat het allemaal voorbij is **************** *************** "Wees niet te eigenwijs" Sommige mensen zeggen misschien "Als je de kans krijgt, zul je tijd vinden om te 'spelen'. Er zijn twee dingen die me tegenhouden in 2019 Dingen die ik weet dat ik in het verleden SCHOON bleef. Ik ben van plan ze toe te passen, wat er ook gebeurt — "Neem geen geld mee en ga terug naar GA."

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Just for today
This week, this year
I will have no urge
I will have no fear
I will have no chance
To play the slot
No dread that I will lose the lot
Yet tonight my actions could have been just the same
As recent Sunday night trip. when I came
Home, using a detour, a different route
Having planned a lie and “play it cute”
A few stolen hours of hidden fun
After dropping my son back to his honeybun
An outing that had gradually become a habit
One look at my purse and quickly grab it
“See you later ” to hubby-
To make things look normal
A dash through traffic but not too informal
In true CG form make a quick city drop
Slide into a casino chair and flop
No one need know
Its only for fun…
Until that purse empties and I’m out of mon…
And the ATM tells me no more funds available
Until I am left with nothing else sellable
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That was last year though
Things are different tonight-
Different this week, ‘cos my mindset is right.
I’ve no intention of losing another week’s pay
I’ve done it too often
I’ve done it so fast
Despite the above poem I know it’s all past
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“Don’t get too cocky”
Some people might say
“Given the opportunity , you will find time to ‘play’.

There are two things to stop me in 2019
Things I know in the past kept me stay CLEAN
I intend to apply them , come what may—
“Don’t carry money and go back to GA.”

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