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Same headache here, Jen. I just isolate and stay away from everyone when I’m unwell. I’m becoming a recluse but I quite like that lifestyle. The feelings we get after succumbing to the temptation to gamble are far worse than any headache.

The longer we stay out of the game, the easier it gets to say No. I have a lot on my mind that a trip to the casino would help to blank out for a few hours but the thought of facing the hangover is enough to keep me grounded. If we drink from the poison chalice, we will always suffer the horrible consequences.

Stay focused!

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It seems as if you are working too hard for too little pay, Sherrie. I’m so sorry that some FATCAT will be lining his pockets with your money. I fed those money grabbers for years but not today…
A few years ago , when I was on a very decent salary, 85% went towards payment of gambling debt.
The thoughts that drove me to gambling were as follows ” I might as well be gambling because I’m working for nothing”
or “I might as well be hung for a sheep as a lamb”.
I realize, as you rightly point out,that I really cannot be trusted with money either. Apart from gambling, I can be very frugal at times but if I start spending (say at times like Christmas), I can lose the run of things very easily.
Also if I know there is a long wait until payday (like this month) I can get very panicky and start believing that “one good win” can sort it all out. The thing is I have had several “good wins” many times and they only led me to the next need to “sort it all out”!
This week/month/year has been G free for me, thank God. I also have to take some credit for it (God won’t stop us directly). At the start of the month I told my husband he would be coming shopping with me. He moans and groans which is a great excuse to make a detour to the casino on shopping trips ( one hour in the shops-ten hours in the slots)
We had 4 shopping trips. I had to buy 2 New Baby presents . I got him to check the prices . (His attitude is “if you want it buy it ; to hell with the price”) but after a few dirty looks and non contact kick in the shins, he agreed to buy the items with 50% off rather than the first thing that came to hand. ‘Hard on him, because I love buying baby clothes and would spent all day in the shops. The other two trips were for groceries. “Spend 50 , get 10 off” also drives him crazy because I add up the exact amount in my head to make sure I avail of that precious ten quid voucher…
Compare this frugality to our gambling spends, Sherrie.
We can be like different people on a different planet.
Don’t expect your husband to comprehend all this mind boggling dollop.
Just get him to be with you when you spend. Show him the receipts. Let him handle the money It will make you richer, it will still be YOUR money and you won’t have half as many temptations to gamble, knowing it isn’t possible.
Start again, Sherrie.
You are not alone.

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Our Higher Power never moves, Lizbeth.
We are the ones who disappear.
I hear you about family members making comments about money to make you feel inferior. I have a sister who knows I have gambling debt. Whenever I get something new she says “It’s easily known who is loaded”! I just ignore her comments but I have been know to put her in her box in the past.
I also get what you say about members coming on here “devastated “after a big loss. Next post they are living a high life and everything is rosy.
I can only think of two ways that can happen
1. the loss was exaggerated (don’t know why someone would lie about a loss)
2. They have access to hidden funds, possibly in the form of topping up loans.
Either way it’s not our problem.
Some people can deal with problems by denying them, like your unfortunate friend whose husband is ill.
I would advise you to give her a wide berth.
You could easily get sucked into her problems. It happened me often in the past. Picking up other people’s emotions and ending up gambling to escape.
Crazy but true.
Trust your own judgement, Lizbeth. You have great strength.
Far more than you realize.
Gambling drags us down and convinces us that we are worthless.
Don’t believe that lie!
I pray for you every day.
Take care.

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Our Higher Power never moves, Lizbeth.
We are the ones who disappear.
I hear you about family members making comments about money to make you feel inferior. I have a sister who knows I have gambling debt. Whenever I get something new she says “It’s easily known who is loaded”! I just ignore her comments but I have been know to put her in her box in the past.
I also get what you say about members coming on here “devastated “after a big loss. Next post they are living a high life and everything is rosy.
I can only think of two ways that can happen
1. the loss was exaggerated (don’t know why someone would lie about a loss)
2. They have access to hidden funds, possibly in the form of topping up loans.
Either way it’s not our problem.
Some people can deal with problems by denying them, like your unfortunate friend whose husband is ill.
I would advise you to give her a wide berth.
You could easily get sucked into her problems. It happened me often in the past. Picking up other people’s emotions and ending up gambling to escape.
Crazy but true.
Trust your own judgement, Lizbeth. You have great strength.
Far more than you realize.
Gambling drags us down and convinces us that we are worthless.
Don’t believe that lie!
I pray for you every day.
Take care.

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Поривите няма да ви навредят, Мърс. Хазартът ще. Просто отделете време и стойте далеч от други комарджии, докато не се почувствате по -силни.

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Aandringen zullen je geen pijn doen, Murrs. Gokken zal. Wacht gewoon je tijd af en blijf uit de buurt van andere gokkers totdat je je sterker voelt.

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Urges won’t hurt you, Murrs.
Gambling will.
Just bide your time and stay away from other gamblers until you feel stronger.

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Good to meet you in the chat earlier, T.

Surrendering control of finances is a huge step for a CG.
I believe gambling has a lot to do with control.
It is a complex issue.
One of the slogans in GA says
KEEP IT SIMPLE.
I think we need to step back and look at life differently.
The chaos and turmoil we created by gambling affects our relationships to a point where nobody knows who we are-especially ourselves!
One day at a time, we will begin to live again, to feel our emotions and to let go of the past.
Just for today ,let’s keep it simple!

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if we didn’t laugh we would cry, Jen…

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Life can be a struggle, Lizbeth.
It will never be a Rose Garden.
Every member here chose gambling as a means of escape.
It didn’t work for any of us.
Just caused further misery.
Just for today DO NOT GAMBLE.

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Yes, Nick ,it is very frustrating when nobody listens. Not only in GT but across the whole spectrum of life. Life has changed. We have become selfish. People seem very involved in their own “buzz” and other people’s problems go unnoticed. Perhaps that’s why the Bible says “Put not your trust in princes or mere man”!
Alcohol won’t undo your gambling loss either, Nick.
The more we gamble, the more we withdraw from Life. The more we withdraw, the less likely it will be for Life to come looking for us.
We are not alone, Nick but we are on our own when it comes to recovery.
Nobody can take a step for us.
Others can only walk with us.
Only God Himself will carry you.

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Tikai šodienai Šonedēļ, šogad man nebūs vēlmes, man nebūs baiļu, man nebūs izredžu spēlēt spēļu automātu. Nav bailes, ka es daudz zaudēšu. . kad es atnācu mājās, izmantojot apvedceļu, citu maršrutu Pēc tam, kad biju ieplānojis melus un "uzspēlējis gudri" Dažas zagtas stundas slēptās izklaides Pēc tam, kad dēlu nometu atpakaļ pie medusmaizītes Izbrauciens, kas pamazām bija kļuvis par ieradumu Viens skatiens uz manu maku un ātri paķer to vīram “Uz tikšanos vēlāk”- Lai viss izskatītos normāli Svītra caur satiksmi, bet ne pārāk neformāla Patiesā CG formā ātri iemetiet pilsētu. Ieslīdiet kazino krēslā un pakrītiet Nevienam nav jāzina Tā ir tikai izklaidei. .. Kamēr tas maciņš nav iztukšojies un es esmu beigusies … Un bankomāts man saka, ka vairs nav pieejami līdzekļi Līdz man nepaliek nekas cits pārdodams ***************** ******** Tas bija pagājušajā gadā, lai gan šovakar viss ir citādi- šonedēļ citādi, jo mana domāšana ir pareiza. Man nav nodoma zaudēt vēl vienas nedēļas algu. Es to esmu darījis pārāk bieži. Es to darīju tik ātri. Neskatoties uz iepriekš minēto dzejoli, es zinu, ka tas viss ir pagājis ***************** ************* "Nepārliecinieties" Daži cilvēki varētu teikt: "Ņemot vērā iespēju, jūs atradīsit laiku" spēlēties ". Mani 2019. gadā var apturēt divas lietas zinu, ka agrāk mani turēja TĪRU Es plānoju tos piemērot, lai arī kas notiktu — "Nēsājiet naudu un dodieties atpakaļ uz GA."

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Just for today
This week, this year
I will have no urge
I will have no fear
I will have no chance
To play the slot
No dread that I will lose the lot
Yet tonight my actions could have been just the same
As recent Sunday night trip. when I came
Home, using a detour, a different route
Having planned a lie and “play it cute”
A few stolen hours of hidden fun
After dropping my son back to his honeybun
An outing that had gradually become a habit
One look at my purse and quickly grab it
“See you later ” to hubby-
To make things look normal
A dash through traffic but not too informal
In true CG form make a quick city drop
Slide into a casino chair and flop
No one need know
Its only for fun…
Until that purse empties and I’m out of mon…
And the ATM tells me no more funds available
Until I am left with nothing else sellable
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That was last year though
Things are different tonight-
Different this week, ‘cos my mindset is right.
I’ve no intention of losing another week’s pay
I’ve done it too often
I’ve done it so fast
Despite the above poem I know it’s all past
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“Don’t get too cocky”
Some people might say
“Given the opportunity , you will find time to ‘play’.

There are two things to stop me in 2019
Things I know in the past kept me stay CLEAN
I intend to apply them , come what may—
“Don’t carry money and go back to GA.”

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Tylko na dzisiaj W tym tygodniu W tym roku Nie będę miał ochoty Nie będę się bał Nie będę miał szans Grać na automacie Bez strachu, że dużo stracę Jeszcze dzisiaj moje działania mogły być takie same Jak ostatnia niedzielna nocna wycieczka . kiedy wróciłem do domu, objazdem, inną trasą Zaplanowanie kłamstwa i „zagranie w to uroczo” Kilka skradzionych godzin ukrytej zabawy Po podrzuceniu syna z powrotem do jego miodowej bułki Wycieczka, która stopniowo stała się nawykiem Jedno spojrzenie na moją torebkę i szybko złap go "Do zobaczenia później" do męża- Aby wszystko wyglądało normalnie Pędź przez ruch uliczny, ale nie za bardzo nieformalny W prawdziwej formie CG szybko zrzuć miasto Wsuń się na krzesło w kasynie i flop Nikt nie musi wiedzieć To tylko dla zabawy. .. Dopóki ta torebka się nie opróżni i nie skończę… A bankomat mówi mi, że nie ma więcej środków Dopóki nie zostanie mi nic innego do sprzedania ***************** ******** To było w zeszłym roku, chociaż Dzisiejszej nocy jest inaczej. Inaczej w tym tygodniu, bo moje nastawienie jest właściwe. Nie mam zamiaru tracić tygodniowej pensji Robiłem to zbyt często Zrobiłem to tak szybko Mimo powyższego wiersza wiem, że to już przeszłość ***************** ************* „Nie bądź zbyt zarozumiały” Niektórzy ludzie mogą powiedzieć „Jeśli nadarzy się okazja, znajdziesz czas na „zagranie”. W 2019 roku są dwie rzeczy, które mnie powstrzymują. wiem, że w przeszłości utrzymywał mnie w czystości. Zamierzam je zastosować, co może się wydarzyć — "Nie noś pieniędzy i wracaj do GA."

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Solo per oggi Questa settimana, quest'anno non avrò alcun impulso Non avrò paura Non avrò alcuna possibilità di giocare alla slot Nessuna paura di perdere tutto Eppure stasera le mie azioni avrebbero potuto essere le stesse del recente viaggio notturno di domenica . quando sono tornato a casa, usando una deviazione, un percorso diverso Avere pianificato una bugia e "fare il carino" Qualche ora rubata di divertimento nascosto Dopo aver riportato mio figlio nella sua focaccia Una gita che era gradualmente diventata un'abitudine Uno sguardo alla mia borsa e prendilo rapidamente "Ci vediamo più tardi" a mio marito- Per far sembrare le cose normali Una corsa nel traffico ma non troppo informale In vera forma CG fare un rapido salto in città Scivolare su una sedia del casinò e flop Nessuno deve saperlo È solo per divertimento. .. Fino a quando quella borsa non si svuota e ho finito i soldi… E l'ATM mi dice che non ci sono più fondi disponibili Fino a quando non mi rimane nient'altro vendibile ***************** ******** Questo è stato l'anno scorso, anche se stasera le cose sono diverse, diverse questa settimana, perché la mia mentalità è giusta. Non ho intenzione di perdere un'altra settimana di paga L'ho fatto troppo spesso L'ho fatto così in fretta Nonostante la poesia di cui sopra so che è tutto passato ***************** ************* "Non essere troppo arrogante" Alcune persone potrebbero dire "Tiene l'opportunità, troverai il tempo per 'giocare'. Ci sono due cose che mi fermeranno nel 2019 Cose che so che in passato mi ha tenuto PULITO ho intenzione di applicarli, qualunque cosa accada — "Non portare soldi e tornare a GA."

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