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Great progress, I-D-I.
Only when we suffer enough, will we give up torturing ourselves.I agree, Monica. This issue needs to be re examined. In a democracy, lockdown with such a strong police presence in the streets, cannot be sustained.
Sorry to hear you are being subjected to abuse from your son, Monica.
I have been through all that with one of my sons. The sudden attacks are very threatening and upsetting.
Your son sounds hurt and angry..I could say much more but it’s not the time or place for that.
Protect yourself and don’t allow him to put you on a guillt trip.
Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries!!
Try knitting a circle. Monica!!!
The clicking of knitting needles grates on my nerves but for some it is relaxing. My son’s girlfriend knits and crochets and she is the picture of serenity while in action. I think she will start up a business. A very talented and creative girl.
I did knit many years ago when I was expecing my first baby. I loved the idea of knitting but compared to real knitters, I was useless.
Still have the christening dress I made . I keep it hidden though because of all the mistakes in the pattern. I rememember I ripped it back so many times and flung it aside in temper, it was nearer to black than white before it was finished.
Just thinking, knitting is far safer than gambling
“The devil finds work for idle hands”, we were always told.
Good to hear that you are planning to move from (overcrowded) London to Cornwall, Monica.
Living in densely populated areas, involving the use of public transport daily, is certainly a threat to every aspect of health, “corona” aside.
I am eternally gratefeul that I live on the country, albeit a pain in the butt when some power happy policeman/woman pulls you over to question you as to your reason to travel. The good news is that under our magnificient Constitution we do not have to answer those questions. Freedom of Movement is clearly spelled out there and no temporary adjustment to the Health Act supercedes this.If I had to live in a high rise apartment, which many people do, with a 2km restriction, I would go nuts.
You might be interested in listening to Prof. Johan Giesecke, Monica. Along with many other medics, he questions the whole idea of “lockdown” and the consequences which will ensue when this (in my opinion) dangerous tactic is eventually lifted. Where I live, the restrictions are being extended further. Again, I pose the question, for how long will these measures be sustainable in a democracy?
I hear you on the lack of motivation, Monica. I have fallen into the “why bother ” trap too.
My way of getting ’round this ( although I’m a procrastinator) is to remind myself that God has given us the precious gift of time and we will have to answer to Him as to whether we wasted or used that gift . This, of course applies to our whole lives.
You have done amazingly well since you first came to GT, Monica.
You have my admiration.
Monica, I hear you on how peoples’ energy is being draned at this time. I don’t think the “pandemic” is causing the stress. In my opinion, governments’ reaction is disproportinate to the situation and the loss of jobs and uncertainty about the future is making everyone edgy. We have been told the restrictions are now being extended to after the May Bank Holiday. What then?? June? August? Christmas? We need to ask some serious questions.
On a personal level, I feel blessed in many ways. We have a large garden . Hens to provide us with fresh eggs every day. A garden planted-roll on Summer for a good supply of vegetables.We live in a very rural area so a long walk can happen without meeting a soul (well maybe one or two bodies who nod by way of salute). Our local shop is well stocked. (I’ve just come back from there) My main issue is travel beyond the required 2km which I have had to do and will need to do again next week. There are check points everywhere. I don’t want to offend police officers or hold them up in the course of their duty but I have had to, and will again refer to my constitutional rights i.e. Freedom to Travel in this case, which supercedes the hasty legislation which was rushed through, to give the police special powers.
I have been ensnared by gambling addiction for 20 years. I refuse to live in further entrapment under the guise of “keeping safe”. By consent 90% of people are using a reasonable and rational approach . Putting the boot to the neck could cause unnecessary friction. Just because a person wants to walk in the country doesn’t turn him/her into a suicide bomber.
I hope and pray that we all wake up!
Happy Easter to you and yours, Monica.
Tomorrow we will say with confidence
“HE IS RISEN. ALLELUIA.ALLELUIA!”
I can relate, IDI!
Sorry to hear about the cramps. Very scary in the middle of the night. I have been there . I would actually pass out with cramps and often had to alert my better half and beg him not to leave me. Unless I turn up the drama ( but it would be REAL drama) , he wouldn’t notice even if I did hit the floor.
Every time I cook/bake or do other work in the kitchen I ask him to let me know when the kitchen would be vacant so I can get on with my work without his constant negative remarks. On the UP side , I must admit he does 90% of the work and I don’t always give him the credit he deserves but sin sceal eile (that’s another story). His niggling comments sometimes extend to critical actions e.g. he re arranges the items in the dishwasher , sweeps and washes the floor after I have done it. Sometimes I say nothing, sometimes I nag him to hell and sometimes I gamble to escape.
Did you every think of taping him and playing back his comments? Or simply sitting him down and asking him why he is critizing or maybe get him to put a list on the wall so that you know the rules.
I am sick of listening to negative comments too but I wouldn’t dream of turning my life upside down to escape them. I just try to focus on the actions and I will admit his actions far surpass his words.
Sadly, my son ( who is staying with us now) is taking over where his father leaves off. Every word I utter is either contradicted, repeated with a sneer, or criticized. Maybe your son will take your side and say
“How dare you speak to MY MOTHER like that “but that could be wishful thinking.
In the meantime try to think of the long term and don’t make any rash moves.Hi Joerdj
You have my admiration also.
In your very first post you have summed up the history of probably every gambler who has the courage to admit that gambling has beaten us to pulp.
Time to take back our power now and say because of gambling.
“I was far from OK”.
WELL DONE!Привет, Джурдж. Я тоже восхищаюсь. В своем самом первом посте вы подытожили историю, вероятно, каждого игрока, у которого хватило смелости признать, что азартные игры превзошли нас до полусмерти. Пора вернуть нашу силу и сказать, что мы играем в азартные игры. «Я был далек от ОК». ОТЛИЧНАЯ РАБОТА!
..to your granddaughter, Lizbeth.
I “broke the rules”too by bringing my son and his 8 and a half month pregnant G F here. They needed a bit of hurdle help.
Sometimes we have to think outside the box. None of us have a cold or a sniffle, thank God.
I hope and pray this comes to an end sooner rather than later.Payday was the time you gambled in the past, IDI.
The anticipation lingers somewhere in your memory still.
That is my guess . Association and anticipation often bring up memories. It will pass.
I could say a LOT about the pandemic and relay some inside stories that would put your hair standing on end but we must focus on recovery from C-19 as well as G-19.
2020 has been a G free year for you.
Keep it that way.
We all have “bigger fish to fry”right now.You cannot undo all the damage in one foul swoop, Kin. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Did you sell a property at a big profit or do you owe everything you gained?
It took most of us a long time to create the mess we are in, then many (I for one) continued to pile on greater hardship.
We need to take things slowly and not be fearful.
“Perfect Love cast out all Fear”