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I hear you Sherrie.
Too much red tape attached to payment of bills and DDs
I was in dispute with the bank over a 12 quid charge that I didn’t owe. They twisted around in their own favour.
For once I let it go.
They will always win (just like the slot machines)
Good to hear you rattled a few cages with your moody boss.
‘Bet she backed down?
Every bully is a coward.
Keep the “old man “sweet. They can be better friends than enemies!! lol!Take it easy with the Sleeping Pills, Lizbeth.
They make you groggy and affect your judgement. Also they give you a false lull.
We need to keep our wits about us to stay gamble free (Yes, these words are for myself too).
When we are re assured by other CGs that gambling is “only a slip” or a “blip” or “part of the recovery process”, it gives us the go ahead to “try one more time”.
When I read that, it bugs me because it is not quite true.
Gambling is gambling.
We gamble by choice.
Dwelling on losses often leads us to try to “win back what we lost” sic!
We know by now that it will always end in tears.
We know we will be devastated every time (Even if we manage to escape by breaking even or with a few $$ in our purse)
We know that we will NEVER win.
We will never get the time back.
We risk losing friends and family.
We torture ourselves and blame ourselves for issues that may not be our fault at all.
We sink into a state of despair and risk our health and security…………….
Need I go on???
The script has been written, Lizbeth.
Why would a CG ever want/need to gamble?Great achievement, Beem.
Take a bow!Sounds like an extreme measure, Monica.
I hope it works.
To be honest I would take exception to your Practitioner telling me about other patients. Perhaps that’s just me? Anonymity!
I feel uneasy in GA when a member asks “where are you from? Oh! Do you know so-and-so?”
I remember once, tending to a dying gentleman,as the family arrived. I looked across the bed , straight into the eyes of his daughter, who had been sitting beside me in the casino a couple of nights before, both losing heavily. The Professional and Gamblers code kicked in.
“See no evil, hear no evil” or sentiments to that effect.
I hope the treatment helps and that you will be symptom free this week.HI Lynn, Feel free to put an update on your thread when you can.
Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
same here, Lizbeth.
No gambling=a better life (not perfect, just better!)
We CAN do it!Great to meet you in the chat, Lizbeth.
As we well know by now, our debts and bills will never be solved by gambling.
Gambling created a huge % of our problems.
I can totally understand that your finances seem like your biggest worry now, but there are far more important things in life, Lizbeth.
When we get a few G free months under our belt our finances will improve, however slightly or slowly it may seem.
Just try to recall that the last time we got money together, we threw it away. And the time before and the time before that.
What you and I need to do is secure our funds.
I think an appointment with a Financial Agency (lots of free advice available) would help you to see things more clearly.
Calculating in your head is soul destroying.
I do it all the time. When you see it on paper and budget for different expenses it clears your mind.
I handed over a credit card to the defaulters after they did an expenditure list with me. It helped in more ways than one. I realised how much I could save on small everyday items.
I know you have been down this road already, Lizbeth but keep seeking advice. The proverbial penny will eventually drop. you will see your income as YOURS and not something to be thrown away.
Keep t simple.…is the biggest scam on earth…it’s like holding a juicy bone in front of a dog and saying “Don’t lick!”
But we have a better chance than the dog with the juicy bone,Barbs. We have support, advice, options, recovery tools and memories.
The best tip I can give you as a newbie, is “postpone the next bet”. A guy called Lee gave me that advice the very first time I posted here.
I’m an old-timer now. I’ve had my ups and downs .I have walked away empty handed often enough to know that gambling is NOT fun. I have spent too many sleepless nights adding, subtracting, counting back, waiting for payday, only to press replay each time.
I have lost too much and money is by far the least of my losses. When you lose your pride/dignity/friends/family, indeed your very soul, it’s time to wake up!
These days, I concentrate on the plans to re build like you mentioned. Restoring our self esteem, our health and our finances is very rewarding.
I knew in my head from the getgo that compulsive gamblers never win…my bank statements and a six figure loss over the “fun” years are clear evidence of that , but it was only when I heard a member in GA saying at a meeting “There is NO point in gambling because , as CGs we will NEVER WIN that it sunk to a different level and every time I think of gambling now, I say “whats the point. I will NEVER EVER win”.
We have had our “fun”.
Just for today I have exchanged my misery for peace.
Gambling is no longer part of my life.
I wish you well in recovery.you didn’t come to the chat, Lizbeth.
Just touching base to make sure you’re ok??We think our lives will be empty without gambling, Nel.
Gambling seems to fill a void.
That is an illusion. When we gamble, we withdraw from life. The type of withdrawal gambling brings, creates huge voids over the long term.
We end up empty in every area of our lives.
Stay in touch with reality by staying away from the illusion gambling leads us to.
Keep posting.I have days like that too, Lizbeth.
Regret can weigh us down and turn us into bitter, resentful people. Recently we visited a relative who has a new house extension. When the cost was mentioned, my immediate thought was ” I could have paid for that three times over”. An ex work colleague bought a house for cash two years ago. We were earning the same salary…..we could scourge ourselves with these thoughts, Lizbeth and the past will still not change. Just let the thoughts come. Sit with them. Many people have done idiotic things with money. We didn’t deprive anyone of their essentials , Liz.
The people we tortured most of all is ourselves.
Better days ahead! We have to believe that or we would fall into despair.
Money is the least of our losses.You write well and you speak Truth, Kin but I have difficulty knowing if your post refers to a recent “sin” i.e a recent gambling episode or if you are speaking about”falling away”in general terms?
You use the present tense a lot.
Please excuse my misunderstanding.There are lots of points in you last post that interest me, Monica but the one that sticks out is your son not giving back the money he owes.
I have a big problem with lending/borrowing. I did start a thread with that title a while back. Any “wheeling and dealing” sets my mind into “gamble mode”. I always end up looking for a quick fix when I feel somebody I lent money to fails to pay up. Its a feeling of rejection and abuse.
I know you are very generous and have been kind to your family but a loan is totally different than a gift.
I hear you too, about the wanting to be with your mam for her surgery. Divided conflicts between family and work are a cause of stress. Would all that be triggering the IBS attacks, do you think?
Well done to your son for his film part. ‘Hope he enjoys it!You will find GA helpful at this stage, Jez. Meeting people who understand the emotional turmoil will help you to see you are not alone with those feelings.
Take each day as it come.
We can’t hurry time or love.
Time will end. Love won’t!